Fedup
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
It would be a huge turn off except for gold diggers. I remember one guy in college showed me how much he made. Huge mistake. What if it's a lie? Who's to verified.
One would be that the guy would suddenly be more interested in me (and I don't want that kind of guy). The other would be that if our values weren't similar, he'd think I was stingy if I didn't want to pay his way on exotic trips, in nice restaurants, for seats near home plate at baseball games (I hate team sports), etc.
Interesting- My wife was widowed, and her sons told her to never mention how much money she had just in case someone was a gold digger.My mother was widowed from hubby #2 when she was in her 60s. She told future hubby #3 her net worth practically on their first date, which I thought was a huge mistake. Her net worth was around 20 times his, and he wasn't a pauper.
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My mother was widowed from hubby #2 when she was in her 60s. She told future hubby #3 her net worth practically on their first date, which I thought was a huge mistake...... ��
Round 2 comes along, and all she knows is I have "enough" and don't have to go back to work when my kids are gone. She's subtly probed a few times and I've stonewalled. If the time comes for disclosure with this one, not sure if she'll be angry that I haven't been willing to spend more or grateful that I can obviously take care of myself. That reaction will set the future course, I think.
One day, her car broke down, and the repair was quite expensive. I wrote her a check to cover a good part of it. When she looked at the check, she said, "but there are 3 zeros before the decimal point".
In this whole thread, sex and money are mentioned a lot, but love comes up very seldom. I wonder why that is?
In this whole thread, sex and money are mentioned a lot, but love comes up very seldom. I wonder why that is?
I had no idea what Mr. A was "worth" when we got married. We didn't discuss net worth. I knew he paid child support, had a house, claimed to pay his bills every month and not carry a balance (which turned out to be true), and drove a very beat-up car he'd bought from a friend. I also knew I loved him. Edit to add: In this whole thread, sex and money are mentioned a lot, but love comes up very seldom. I wonder why that is?
At the time she was still dealing with the financial fallout of her husbands passing. We were starting to be serious, and she really appreciated it.A kind gesture, but why did you do it? Frankly, I'd be a little insulted if a man paid for my car repair. I'm not a damsel in distress!
I had no idea what Mr. A was "worth" when we got married. We didn't discuss net worth. I knew he paid child support, had a house, claimed to pay his bills every month and not carry a balance (which turned out to be true), and drove a very beat-up car he'd bought from a friend. I also knew I loved him. Edit to add: In this whole thread, sex and money are mentioned a lot, but love comes up very seldom. I wonder why that is?
Sex and money *generally* come up a lot faster than one will "fall in love". If you can't get past the 'hurdles' on the way to falling in love, it's pretty well impossible to get to that point. While I may not jump in bed with a woman the first night I meet her, the odds are very high that we'll be sleeping together before I get to the point of "being in love" if history is any indication. Based on history, I'll also have a strong indication of how our values regarding money compare long before that point is reached.
A wise former boss used to say there are 3 issues that break up a marriage: sex, money and squeezing the toothpaste tube in the middle.
This reminded me - about a year after DW and I got married my younger sister hesitantly asked "So how are things going with you and DW?"
I replied "Well, the worst thing I can say about her is that she squeezes the toothpaste tube in the middle, but I guess I can live with that". Sister thought that was cute.
DW still squeezes the tube in the middle and I still don't care.
Next month will complete the 29th year so I think it's gonna work.
Funny, ever since DW and I have been married, we have separate toothpaste tubes. I wonder if that's an omen of some kind?
Funny, ever since DW and I have been married, we have separate toothpaste tubes. I wonder if that's an omen of some kind?
Funny, ever since DW and I have been married, we have separate toothpaste tubes. I wonder if that's an omen of some kind?
I'm not sure which is worse, that a relationship depends on something as minor as squeezing the toothpaste from the middle, or that people who squeeze the toothpaste in the middle annoy me...
This reminded me - about a year after DW and I got married my younger sister hesitantly asked "So how are things going with you and DW?"
I replied "Well, the worst thing I can say about her is that she squeezes the toothpaste tube in the middle, but I guess I can live with that". Sister thought that was cute.
DW still squeezes the tube in the middle and I still don't care.
Next month will complete the 29th year so I think it's gonna work.