Better to get a wake up call in your 30's than in your 50's .
You would think so, wouldn’t you. I have 3 sets of relatives that had wake up calls in their 30’s (& 40’s) and now it their 50’s they continue with denial and stupid decisions. Some people never learn. One set I know is waiting for the kids to graduate (if ever) to divorce, yet both are to blame and neither does anything to improve the situation even when told plain facts. How does one live where every bill is 2-3 months late.
One drained every retirement account and bit of savings (when he made, as he called it, “more money than I could ever spend”) to build a “dream” house that he estimated would cost him $400k and be worth $800k. And he decided that AFTER he was laid off, with the logic that once built, they’d be living for “free” and the appreciation on that house would be a higher ROR than any investment for their retirement. Now broke, with a 3/4s built house (with about $600k in to it) after over 3 years and laid off again. His retirement plan is a hoped for inheritance (of less than $100k) and SS for both.
One set has decided to retire with one disability and the other working when he finds something “that’s a good fit”, otherwise he flips on eBay. Their retirement plan is also a hoped for inheritance. I absolutely get no joy from their stupidity and in fact it actually angers me when I hear about their lives.
My own step son is a financial disaster despite seeing both of us work our whole lives often 80 hours a week, plus putting in a lot of sweat equity in houses, never a new vehicle, etc, etc. His take away from watching us LBYM and now FIRE? “Way too much work, and not enough living. I’m not going to work my life away like you two did”. He’s on his own and paycheck to paycheck and his “living” consists of video games and pot. Some people can’t be taught.
My parents were financially ignorant till the day they died. They never had a retirement savings plan besides their homes. Both sides of grand parents were savers and frugal to the max. I think the offspring rebelled against that. Never had a single Consumer class in any school. Self taught, like most here, but I think it helps a lot to have a solid base in common sense (and math).
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