lazygood4nothinbum
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Lazy, what do you think of this dream?
Last summer, after my ex-husband told me he was getting re-married, his late mother (my ex-law) came to me in a dream,sat on my bed, and told me "Not to feel bad" and that she was sending someone to me. My ex-mother in law and I were NEVER close, in fact we hardly saw each other for the last fifteen years of my marriage. And she was not happy with me about the divorce either. I thought the dream was odd at the time. I would have thought that my own late mother might appear in my dream to comfort me but not my ex-MIL.
Subsequently, I have met two men who in different ways have assisted in healing my heart. No short or long term relationship was possible with them. It was as if someone was showing me that I could feel love again.
My own experience has shown me that dreams can be predictive of the future and I think it has to do with the mind's subconscious shifting through events and making decisions for you while you sleep.
like achiever's very fun dream, i suppose you can look at these things as "actual contact" with "the other side." that is up to the dreamer. we all decide how we experience what we perceive as reality.
with all the lucid dreaming i've done since childhood and with my practice of dream yoga since my early 20s, with having spent so much of my life being conscious & self-aware in my sleep, experiencing as people experience their waking life what no one in their right mind would call real, i could not quite say for certain at this point that what's left is so very real either. so while it seems to me that a dream might have some basis in reality, i simply don't know if there is any reality to it or at all for that matter.
some my good friends have always found that frustrating about me, that they seem to have so much more faith in my experiences than i. of course, i fault them for lacking the skepticism which i view as healthy. there is always more that we don't know than what we do. so if you care to enjoy a life of abundance, the direction is clear.
and doesn't it often seem that even this waking reality we call life is open to interpretation. so given all that i would be very careful about interpreting a dream of a person who so obviously wants to see their dream as more than just a dream.
but even all that never stopped me from shooting off my mouth so off the cuff i'd say you're mind is resolving guilt issues about your divorce whether you were much at fault or not and so it is the dream character of the blaming mother-in-law who now comforts you, signaling that you are coming to terms with yourself over an issue which has made you question your own motivations and past actions.
that you have never dreamed of your own mother could simply be caused by strong emotions which might upset you too much for now.
as to thinking the dreams predictive, i think you might be close on your theory of how dreaming can influence the mind and then, once awake, we might act upon those thoughts. so you might have prepared yourself in your sleep to be more receptive to listening and enjoying people in your waking state. or, as studied by carl g jung, perhaps it was an example of sychronicity.
as to the dream elements according to this particular dream dictionary:
bed:
resting comfortably in own bed = security & love
sitting in own bed = early marriage
stranger being in your bed = matrimonial unfaithfulness
there is no mention in this particular reference book to a mother-in-law in a dream and you offered no other dream elements.
"our truest life is when we are in dreams awake"~~henry david thoreau
"when we dream that we dream, we are beginning to wake up."~~novalis
"all that we see or seem is but a dream within a dream"~~edgar allen poe
"he who looks outside dreams. he who looks inside wakes"~~cg jung
"merrily merrily merrily merrily life is but a dream"
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