thefed
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
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So, today my wife said something to that effect while I was getting our oldest ready for bed. After a long day on the phone, in meetings, and doing paperwork....I lost it. Not only was her timing absolutely wrong, but what she said and how she said it really really hurt.
I already KNOW that I spend a lot of time working. I also know that there are weeks and even months when I am at home 3-4 days a week doing nothing. I was home ALL day, but on the computer (in the kitchen so I get SOME interaction with the family) doing work, taking calls, and working on our new business idea. So although I was THERE, i wasnt able to 'play' with the kids when they bugged me...or go outside to shoot hoops. I had a deadline for some online work and that's the bottom line. I am our sole source of revenue (95%).
She said "it's obvious that everything else comes before the kids" while just 2 weeks ago she praised me for being such a great dad, involved with everything in the kids lives. I was so livid (and hurt) when she said it that I couldnt even finish reading him his book. I had to get out of the room before I exploded.
I KNOW that I have troubles managing my time. I KNOW that I've posted on here about managing family vs. wife vs. work vs. ME time. I KNOW this. But sometimes WORK needs to be done.
I dont know what to do. I dont neglect my kids. We play for a little while every day...no matter what. I I run to the store, I take one of them for alone time. I take the oldest 4-wheeling. I take the youngest to the warehouse to jump on the equipment. I goto the oldest's flag football games and coach. I AM involved...but also very busy.
I just dont know how to approach this with my wife without saying something I regret.
I already KNOW that I spend a lot of time working. I also know that there are weeks and even months when I am at home 3-4 days a week doing nothing. I was home ALL day, but on the computer (in the kitchen so I get SOME interaction with the family) doing work, taking calls, and working on our new business idea. So although I was THERE, i wasnt able to 'play' with the kids when they bugged me...or go outside to shoot hoops. I had a deadline for some online work and that's the bottom line. I am our sole source of revenue (95%).
She said "it's obvious that everything else comes before the kids" while just 2 weeks ago she praised me for being such a great dad, involved with everything in the kids lives. I was so livid (and hurt) when she said it that I couldnt even finish reading him his book. I had to get out of the room before I exploded.
I KNOW that I have troubles managing my time. I KNOW that I've posted on here about managing family vs. wife vs. work vs. ME time. I KNOW this. But sometimes WORK needs to be done.
I dont know what to do. I dont neglect my kids. We play for a little while every day...no matter what. I I run to the store, I take one of them for alone time. I take the oldest 4-wheeling. I take the youngest to the warehouse to jump on the equipment. I goto the oldest's flag football games and coach. I AM involved...but also very busy.
I just dont know how to approach this with my wife without saying something I regret.