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Old 07-06-2011, 06:29 PM   #81
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I feel like I do owe her a little more than a simple "no".
Since she asked in a text message, I'd recommend: "OMG WTF?"
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Old 07-06-2011, 07:17 PM   #82
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I have tried to pass this post by a couple of times but it just has too good of a title.

A friend from childhood days stated he was coming for a visit last month. I told him that this was not a good time but that did not dissuade him. No comes easier out of my mouth now that I am in my later years but there were extenuating circumstances. He had finished being a caregiver to his brother who had died of cancer this year. Plus his only family in the world is another brother who he really doesn't get along with.
So when he decided to come inspite of my very full schedule (how does one get so busy in ER?) DW counseled patience. "What are your plans?" "Don't know". We gave him a week and he was no clearer about his stay or what he was going to do with his life. He was going with the default which was an indefinite life with me and DW. When I was sure this was the situation, I asked him to move on and I did not let him come back when he wanted to a few weeks later. Wondering if our relationship is friendship or something else.

After a month, I decided that this moocher repellant is not such a bad thing. Where can I buy it?
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Old 07-06-2011, 07:23 PM   #83
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Free, I think you did well to get him moving in only a month. It took us a year to get our friend out of the house, and in the end we realized we were doing him no favors by letting him stay indefinitely with no job and no plans. Once he moved out, he got a job, apartment, and girlfriend in short order.
Your kindness to give him that time was generous.
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And time for sailors to join this lovely thread - I wonder if I'm going to beg for some of this repellent thingy later.
We are about to host SIL & her family (husband & 2 small kids) for an undetermined period of time (few months maybe?). They decided to move back to US (they lived 10 years in UK, SIL's hubby is UK native)
One thing for sure - it will not be a quiet house with 5 kids under the age of 7
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And time for sailors to join this lovely thread - I wonder if I'm going to beg for some of this repellent thingy later.
We are about to host SIL & her family (husband & 2 small kids) for an undetermined period of time (few months maybe?). They decided to move back to US (they lived 10 years in UK, SIL's hubby is UK native)
One thing for sure - it will not be a quiet house with 5 kids under the age of 7
Should be a huge amount of fun for the kids though.

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The kids will live it!! At that age the more, the merrier. Parents will need to set common ground rules or the babes will rule.
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I have a moochy neighbour who lost everyhting in a bankruptcy (caused by a property deal gone sour). In the past, I have helped by paying his phone bill so he could continue to "dial for dollars". One time the bill payment stayed outstanding for a year. Last fall, he asked for all utilities.

DW is opposed to lending anyone money. I said: "Sorry but I can't lend you money without getting a lot of grief from DW." and that was it. We are still friends and he has learned to tap other sources for interim funds. He is into another neighbour (85) for over $15000!

These people will always find another mark. He lost his car in the bankruptcy, so we do drive him for groceries, and I will buy cigarettes and beer using his bank card for him.
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Old 07-07-2011, 04:37 PM   #88
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He is into another neighbour (85) for over $15000!
You must live in a very rich neighborhood!
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It looks like we have it easy. The spouse tells the requester they have to talk to me and they decide it's just not worth the effort.
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Should be a huge amount of fun for the kids though.
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The kids will live it!! At that age the more, the merrier. Parents will need to set common ground rules or the babes will rule.
Negotiations in progress.
So far few good ideas, like alternating the care of all the kids one evening per week.
Meals situation is still TBD, as are TV rules (We don't own a TV, but they do, so we want to put some ground rules for our kids not to overdose it)

Here's a recent picture of the crew, while visiting Diggerland near London:
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We certainly hope so.

Negotiations in progress.
So far few good ideas, like alternating the care of all the kids one evening per week.
Meals situation is still TBD, as are TV rules (We don't own a TV, but they do, so we want to put some ground rules for our kids not to overdose it)

Here's a recent picture of the crew, while visiting Diggerland near London:
Cute crew!
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Here's a recent picture of the crew, while visiting Diggerland near London:
The T-shirt says it all: "Here comes trouble."
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