When the g-kids (2 girls) were little, I made tapes for them where I talked a little to them, introduced the next song...talk...song, etc. Used a lot of Raffi (sp?) when the girls were little. DD and DIL used the tapes differently. DD shuttled her little one around a lot in the car and she popped the tape to entertain her little one. On the tapes, I always asked questions about what they were doing and suggested they sing along with the song. DD told me her little one used to answer my questions and actively participated in the songs as I suggested. DIL put the tapes on for her little one at nap time and bed time. As the girls got older, I found songs that were more age appropriate..."Girl-Quake", etc. I checked out tapes/CDs from the library to make the tapes. I also sent pictures of DH and myself...and the dog! I laminated the pictures so the little ones could carry them around/plaly with them, etc. Also, I have knitted cute sweaters for them, made summer shorts sets, decorated blue jean jackets, made Easter and Christmas dresses. Little ones loved it, but actually, they love anything that arrives in the mail.
We relied on phone calls and visits to keep in touch with our kids. We also vacation with the kids when they ask us to...will be in Big Bend with DS and family this month for spring break...were in Colorado mountains with DS and DD last summer. Everyone took lots of pictures and I gathered the pictures and put them in a slide show with music that the girls liked. Both girls loved the CD, but the oldest one wanted to know exactly how I "made" the CD. She's been making CDs with her pictures (drill team, volley ball, basket ball, band, etc.) and "her music".
As the g-kids have gotten older (12 and 13 now), we talk on the phone with the older g-kid because she likes to chat on the phone...we IM with the younger one...she likes to IM, but not talk on the phone...go figure. Anyway, it is fun and keeps us connected with them and what is going on in their lives. Also, I send cards for EVERY holiday...and enclose $10 in each card. They call to say thanks and tell me what they spent the money on. Sometimes, I send a prepaid card...like when McDonalds has cute credit card looking gift cards. I've also sent I-Tune cards and computer games (Insaniaquarium was a real hit).
We visit them at Christmas time, and I give each one $100 and set aside a day for each of them to take them shopping to buy their Christmas present. We start with breakfast out...shop a while...lunch...shop some more. When the girls were younger, they got $50 and a shopping spree...but I also gave them little presents (12 of them - one for each of the 12 days before Christmas). A couple of years ago, I asked if they would rather have more money for the shopping spree and not get the 12 little presents. Both girls said yes. Now that they are both going into the juniors department, I'm probably going to have to increase the amount again if I want them to have enough money to buy an outfit. In addition to our annual shopping trips, the girls and I do a special project together. This past Christmas, we made their Christmas gifts for Mom and Dad...bought wine glasses and glass paint...the glasses turned out really cute...girls had a great time and their parents were impressed with their wine glasses. We were busy making memories! That's how I stay connected.