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Old 04-22-2012, 12:04 AM   #21
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We frequent a local seafood restaurant that is also a hang out for older singles and what I have observed is that older guys have won the dating lottery . There are many more older single women than older guys .As long as the guy is semi decent and not a complete dud he has become a chic magnet .
If you're going to tease the board with these tidbits, you should at least provide an address or a phone number to call for reservations...
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Old 04-22-2012, 12:12 AM   #22
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OTOH, many financially secure women will admit that the only thing they cannot easily find as needed is a low cost handyman.
I think that is why my DW keeps me around. That, and I can reach stuff on the top shelf.
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All a retired man has to do to get the women to fall over them, (for marriage), is to advertise that he has health insurance...
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About a month ago I put the message "will retire in the summer of 2012" into my profile.

The average age of women responding has not changed much, still pretty near my age. But, there is no doubt that being retired is a plus in their minds. I was told by a female friend that the message signals two things; 1) the man has more free time to devote the the relationship and 2) the man probably has some money and a sense of financial responsibility.
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I would love to, but Ms G might object.
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DH would also like us to find a low-cost handyman--he just ain't a handyman, never was, never will be.
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But, there is no doubt that being retired is a plus in their minds. I was told by a female friend that the message signals two things; 1) the man has more free time to devote the the relationship and 2) the man probably has some money and a sense of financial responsibility.
or 3) He was retired from his job as, out of all the workers there, he was the most out of touch. Due to the fact that he hasn't kept up with the times, cannot find new employment, so is sitting around eating cold beans from a can because he didn't save much while working.

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I guess I'm lucky, because I have a great handyman - - a friend of Frank's family...
I have myself to rely on as a "handywoman" unless it involves electricity, ladders, windows and roofs. For those items, I have several friends and a very reliable contractor who don't mind w*rking on a case of beer (friends) or cash (contractor) basis.
I do take my vehicles to a local mechanic because I have no hydraulic lift here at home, otherwise I would do a lot of the simpler things myself. And I still cannot find my floor creeper.

Mr B claims he is not handy, but all I have to do is the diagnosis, get the parts and tools together, and away he goes.
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or 3) He was retired from his job as, out of all the workers there, he was the most out of touch. Due to the fact that he hasn't kept up with the times, cannot find new employment, so is sitting around eating cold beans from a can because he didn't save much while working.

Just playing devil's advocate
Thanfully, most women I have met do not have this negative attitude. They are careful however. At the first sign of financial problems, they run way faster than a chicken with the Colonel after it.
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I find it interesting the number of married people participating in a thread on dating while retired.

Maybe their spouses need to be more careful.
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A. On the Internet, nobody knows if we are really married. (Something for people who use online dating services to think about).

B. Unless in an arranged marriage, most of us have some experience of dating. Thus, opinions. Plus, people may be curious about how well online dating actually works (given that you can represent yourself any way you want). I do know one married couple who met on Match.com.

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I find it interesting the number of married people participating in a thread on dating while retired.

Maybe their spouses need to be more careful.
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A. On the Internet, nobody knows if we are really married. (Something for people who use online dating services to think about).
I have never had a woman falsly represent herself as single when she was married. Never. Several, have been separated and in the procerss of divorce, and have made that fact known up-front. I politly avoid them.

That said, I was being humorous, and not meaning any real questioning of the fidelity of the membors of this message board.
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Often men are looking for a caretaker/cook/mommie. If a guy cannot cook, is not comfortable keeping his own house or paying someone else to do it, or making his own social calendar and warm relationships, he is kind of up a creek without a woman. OTOH, many financially secure women will admit that the only thing they cannot easily find as needed is a low cost handyman. And that can be dealt with pretty well by moving to an apartment- often without the arguments, stalling, and unfinished projects that handy-boy sometimes leaves lying around.
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So the tables are turned from when we were young, as long as the women in question are financially OK. Even young women often don't much want a husband, unless they plan on children.

We will have to get used to the idea that men in post-industrial society pretty much have to earn our companship on charm, or wit, or erudition or some other kind of schtick.

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While I like having a man around occasionally, I do not need one financially; and I would never want to subject anyone to living with me.
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We frequent a local seafood restaurant that is also a hang out for older singles and what I have observed is that older guys have won the dating lottery . There are many more older single women than older guys .As long as the guy is semi decent and not a complete dud he has become a chic magnet .
I prefer them younger.
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All a retired man has to do to get the women to fall over them, (for marriage), is to advertise that he has health insurance...
I have my own health insurance.
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I have never had a woman falsly represent herself as single when she was married.
It would be kind of pointless to do that, wouldn't it. Still, one hears tales!

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That said, I was being humorous, and not meaning any real questioning of the fidelity of the membors of this message board.
I was also being humorous, although on the Internet, it's sometimes hard to tell.

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I admit that I did feel a little taken aback when one of the retired men told me he lived in a fairly rundown apartment and didn't drive, and would take a taxi to meet me. I wondered if he was too poor for a car (and might expect to depend on me financially), or if he was an alcoholic and not allowed to drive. No second date potential there.
Maybe he was well to do and was practicing extreme LBYM.
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Maybe he was well to do and was practicing extreme LBYM.
Yup...That may have been his way of winnowing the chaff from the wheat...there's a lot of gold diggers out there.
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