Dating while retired

[Bestwifeever]

DH would also like us to find a low-cost handyman--he just ain't a handyman, never was, never will be.

 

[Major Tom]

But, there is no doubt that being retired is a plus in their minds. I was told by a female friend that the message signals two things; 1) the man has more free time to devote the the relationship and 2) the man probably has some money and a sense of financial responsibility.

or 3) He was retired from his job as, out of all the workers there, he was the most out of touch. Due to the fact that he hasn't kept up with the times, cannot find new employment, so is sitting around eating cold beans from a can because he didn't save much while working.

Just playing devil's advocate

 

[freebird5825]

I guess I'm lucky, because I have a great handyman - - a friend of Frank's family...

I have myself to rely on as a "handywoman" unless it involves electricity, ladders, windows and roofs. For those items, I have several friends and a very reliable contractor who don't mind w*rking on a case of beer (friends) or cash (contractor) basis.
I do take my vehicles to a local mechanic because I have no hydraulic lift here at home, otherwise I would do a lot of the simpler things myself. And I still cannot find my floor creeper.

Mr B claims he is not handy, but all I have to do is the diagnosis, get the parts and tools together, and away he goes.

 

[Chuckanut]

or 3) He was retired from his job as, out of all the workers there, he was the most out of touch. Due to the fact that he hasn't kept up with the times, cannot find new employment, so is sitting around eating cold beans from a can because he didn't save much while working.

Just playing devil's advocate

Thanfully, most women I have met do not have this negative attitude. They are careful however. At the first sign of financial problems, they run way faster than a chicken with the Colonel after it.

 

[Chuckanut]

I find it interesting the number of married people participating in a thread on dating while retired.

Maybe their spouses need to be more careful.

 

[Amethyst]

A. On the Internet, nobody knows if we are really married. (Something for people who use online dating services to think about).

B. Unless in an arranged marriage, most of us have some experience of dating. Thus, opinions. Plus, people may be curious about how well online dating actually works (given that you can represent yourself any way you want). I do know one married couple who met on Match.com.

Amethyst

I find it interesting the number of married people participating in a thread on dating while retired.

Maybe their spouses need to be more careful.

 

[Chuckanut]

A. On the Internet, nobody knows if we are really married. (Something for people who use online dating services to think about).

I have never had a woman falsly represent herself as single when she was married. Never. Several, have been separated and in the procerss of divorce, and have made that fact known up-front. I politly avoid them.

That said, I was being humorous, and not meaning any real questioning of the fidelity of the membors of this message board.

 

[Khan]

Often men are looking for a caretaker/cook/mommie. If a guy cannot cook, is not comfortable keeping his own house or paying someone else to do it, or making his own social calendar and warm relationships, he is kind of up a creek without a woman. OTOH, many financially secure women will admit that the only thing they cannot easily find as needed is a low cost handyman. And that can be dealt with pretty well by moving to an apartment- often without the arguments, stalling, and unfinished projects that handy-boy sometimes leaves lying around.

Something like that.

So the tables are turned from when we were young, as long as the women in question are financially OK. Even young women often don't much want a husband, unless they plan on children.

We will have to get used to the idea that men in post-industrial society pretty much have to earn our companship on charm, or wit, or erudition or some other kind of schtick.

Ha

Indeed.
While I like having a man around occasionally, I do not need one financially; and I would never want to subject anyone to living with me.

 

[Khan]

We frequent a local seafood restaurant that is also a hang out for older singles and what I have observed is that older guys have won the dating lottery . There are many more older single women than older guys .As long as the guy is semi decent and not a complete dud he has become a chic magnet .

I prefer them younger.

 

[Khan]

All a retired man has to do to get the women to fall over them, (for marriage), is to advertise that he has health insurance...

I have my own health insurance.

 

[Amethyst]

I have never had a woman falsly represent herself as single when she was married.

It would be kind of pointless to do that, wouldn't it. Still, one hears tales!

That said, I was being humorous, and not meaning any real questioning of the fidelity of the membors of this message board.

I was also being humorous, although on the Internet, it's sometimes hard to tell.

Amethyst

 

[Dawg52]

.....and Dawg.....please darlin', I haven't had dinner yet...

Awww come one.........you knew I was a hunk. You just didn't know how big of a hunk.

 

[packrat44]

I admit that I did feel a little taken aback when one of the retired men told me he lived in a fairly rundown apartment and didn't drive, and would take a taxi to meet me. I wondered if he was too poor for a car (and might expect to depend on me financially), or if he was an alcoholic and not allowed to drive. No second date potential there.

Maybe he was well to do and was practicing extreme LBYM.

 

[bbbamI]

Awww come one.........you knew I was a hunk. You just didn't know how big of a hunk.

Elvis Presley Hunk Of Burning Love HQ [My Version] - YouTube

 

[Redbugdave]

Maybe he was well to do and was practicing extreme LBYM.

Yup...That may have been his way of winnowing the chaff from the wheat...there's a lot of gold diggers out there.

 

[omni550]

I find it interesting the number of married people participating in a thread on dating while retired.

Maybe their spouses need to be more careful.

Maybe so.

An acquaintance of mine does the I.T. work for several online dating sites. He attends an online dating industry conference in Florida held every January. One of the statistics from that conference that he shared with me was 40% of the men on online dating sites are married.

omni

 

[Moemg]

If you're going to tease the board with these tidbits, you should at least provide an address or a phone number to call for reservations...

Okay ,Here you go !

Restaurants, Anna Maria Oyster Bar, Bradenton, Ellenton, Florida, Fresh Seafood

 

[Chuckanut]

One of the statistics from that conference that he shared with me was 40% of the men on online dating sites are married.

It's no just the men. I remember reading about a town in England that had a high incidence of some disease. Suspecting a heriditary trait, they took blood samples from a number of citizens to see if they could determine if the disease was passed from parent to child. To their surprise they found that 20% of the children had a different father than the guy listed on the birth certificate. Small towns... Go figure.....

 

[donheff]

Okay ,Here you go !

Restaurants, Anna Maria Oyster Bar, Bradenton, Ellenton, Florida, Fresh Seafood

I rode my bike past that place a couple years ago. I was strangely drawn to it but DW wasn't interested.

 

[Amethyst]

Wonder what the incidence is for women? Oh, that's right, married women aren't looking for relationships outside the marriage, and would never lie on the Net

Amethyst

Maybe so.

An acquaintance of mine does the I.T. work for several online dating sites. He attends an online dating industry conference in Florida held every January. One of the statistics from that conference that he shared with me was 40% of the men on online dating sites are married.

omni

 

[TromboneAl]

All a retired man has to do to get the women to fall over them, (for marriage), is to advertise that he has health insurance...

...to cover his Viagra expenses.

 

[skyvue]

I am single and 44 and hope to retire at 50 so I have thought about this issues some. The vast majority of my friends, peers and people I will be running into will not be retired and not even close to being financially ready to do so. I am thinking women who I meet will assume I am "wealthy" if I am already retired.

While I will have fairly significant assets, that money will need to last 30 years so I do not plan to change my "spending" very significantly (though mortgage and child support will be done). In other words my lifestlye will seem fairly normal/routine, but that is precisly the reason I am "able" to retire early.

Which leads to what I think may be an issue for me. I am not going to have much money set aside for "dating" or taking care of somebody else's expenses. Essentially I am going to desire to date somebody who is financially independent and capable of taking care of themselves. Most women I meet right now, would not find that very attractive or appealing. They are looking for the man to bring something to the tables in terms of funding their existance/expenses. I think this means dating will be fairly limited in my early retirment future. Plus, how many people are going to be able and willing to jump in a RV and be gone for 3 months at a time?

 

[Moemg]

Which leads to what I think may be an issue for me. I am not going to have much money set aside for "dating" or taking care of somebody else's expenses. Essentially I am going to desire to date somebody who is financially independent and capable of taking care of themselves. Most women I meet right now, would not find that very attractive or appealing. They are looking for the man to bring something to the tables in terms of funding their existance/expenses. I think this means dating will be fairly limited in my early retirment future. Plus, how many people are going to be able and willing to jump in a RV and be gone for 3 months at a time?

IMO there are a lot of women who are not looking to be financially supported by a Man and are willing to share the expenses of dating . They just do not advertise it as it goes against popular opinion . There are still plenty of woman who cling to the old fashioned rules of the guys paying for everything but isn't that a little foolish if the women have as much or more than them ?

 

[FinanceDude]

Maybe so.

An acquaintance of mine does the I.T. work for several online dating sites. He attends an online dating industry conference in Florida held every January. One of the statistics from that conference that he shared with me was 40% of the men on online dating sites are married.

omni

Sounds like issues at home..........

 

[Redbugdave]

I am single and 44 and hope to retire at 50 so I have thought about this issues some. The vast majority of my friends, peers and people I will be running into will not be retired and not even close to being financially ready to do so. I am thinking women who I meet will assume I am "wealthy" if I am already retired.

While I will have fairly significant assets, that money will need to last 30 years so I do not plan to change my "spending" very significantly (though mortgage and child support will be done). In other words my lifestlye will seem fairly normal/routine, but that is precisly the reason I am "able" to retire early.

Which leads to what I think may be an issue for me. I am not going to have much money set aside for "dating" or taking care of somebody else's expenses. Essentially I am going to desire to date somebody who is financially independent and capable of taking care of themselves. Most women I meet right now, would not find that very attractive or appealing. They are looking for the man to bring something to the tables in terms of funding their existance/expenses. I think this means dating will be fairly limited in my early retirment future. Plus, how many people are going to be able and willing to jump in a RV and be gone for 3 months at a time?

Skyvue...There is one other angle. The woman herself may not have much money...but her family does. Marry the woman...and you become part of the family. One of my hunting buddies did that and now lives the life of Riley. He did not have a pot to piss in and now no longer works, and has beach and mountain houses amongst other things...all he does now is hunt and fish. I am jealous.