Zero, another lawyer speaking up...
I hear you, and you've been clear that this really bugs you, and you are right that it is your prerogative to make changes in your trust and POA.
But shouldn't you talk to your wife before making those changes?
I think you've heard some useful things about law firm culture, but I also want to suggest that maybe your SIL is uncomfortable too, and that the reason he voiced it was he wondered out loud about what he did and how it led to Thanksgiving dinner someplace else. I'd bet my money that he was questioning it, and trusting your family as a place to do that.
I'm thinking of my brother, who had an antsy/edgy job as an associate at a mid size firm, and bolted when he was offered a partnership, along with another associate who was not offered partnership (and opened a new firm). My brother used to voice a lot of issues, quietly, trusting us, and we'd ask why he was still there.
Be open to seeing it differently. It's worth it for your family.
I hear you, and you've been clear that this really bugs you, and you are right that it is your prerogative to make changes in your trust and POA.
But shouldn't you talk to your wife before making those changes?
I think you've heard some useful things about law firm culture, but I also want to suggest that maybe your SIL is uncomfortable too, and that the reason he voiced it was he wondered out loud about what he did and how it led to Thanksgiving dinner someplace else. I'd bet my money that he was questioning it, and trusting your family as a place to do that.
I'm thinking of my brother, who had an antsy/edgy job as an associate at a mid size firm, and bolted when he was offered a partnership, along with another associate who was not offered partnership (and opened a new firm). My brother used to voice a lot of issues, quietly, trusting us, and we'd ask why he was still there.
Be open to seeing it differently. It's worth it for your family.