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I know a lot of people who make more than me, and have for years, but they don't know how to manage and save their money.
I'd like to hear the $4M story.
Maybe they have a gambling habit or big drinking problem, or both....
I don't worry about it. I have enough on my own plate without worrying about why other people keep working vs. retiring.
Why is this an important question for you and DW? Worrying about other people's business Is not something of any importance for me, especially when I have not bee asked for an opinion.
Why is this an important question for you and DW? Worrying about other people's business Is not something of any importance for me, especially when I have not bee asked for an opinion.
Why is this an important question for you and DW? Worrying about other people's business Is not something of any importance for me, especially when I have not bee asked for an opinion.
You don’t know what you don’t know.
--How can I convince my wife we are good to go?
Well I have noticed that people seem to misunderstand what they need.
I had a buddy tell me he thought he needed $10m to retire.
I assume he wants to live off interest and divs.
Meantime he is a new grandfather punching a clock instead of hanging with grands.
In summary people are bad at simple math and have not studied retirement finance.
And a lot of people "need" to work for their social/status/enjoyment. Not everyone hates it.
Back in 2009 I had to do layoffs. One woman was already in her early 60's and she had money and didn't mind telling people. She had investment properties, her DH had a very good pension, and she was also going to get a retiree pension and great healthcare as she was grandfathered into them. She got a great severance package as well.
Within a year, she was back as a contractor. I think the office was her favorite place to be.
I think the reason my wife is concerned about it is that we are approximately at the same point they were at four years ago as far as retirement savings. We're both still working and are making more than they were.
So maybe DW is worried if they think they can't make it why do I think we can retire if we wanted to?
I would just change the subject vs. pressing them. Perhaps they have old debts, or are helping another family member, or something else, private.
FWIW you know far, far more about their finances that I do of anyone else I know. More than my sister, my parents, my closest friends.
I will try to explain it one more time...
My DW and her friend (call her Barb, not real name) get together at least once per week. My wife says that her friend constantly brings up the idea that she NEEDS to work at least one more year. My wife comes home and starts asking me: "They've got to have more money saved than we do. If Barb say she needs to work another year do you really think we could retire now?"
I agree they've got to have more saved than we do, but I show her the retirement worksheet/survey from Fidelity that shows we will be in great shape, I show her the FIRECalc results and we're fine.
Repeat about once every other month.
To be clear, I don't bring it up. I don't talk about it. I don't worry about it. But my wife seems concerned about it.
If I worry about it, it's trying to get my wife to understand we could retire now and we would be in great financial shape. If I were to ask the group a question it would be this--How can I convince my wife we are good to go?
...My wife comes home and starts asking me: "They've got to have more money saved than we do. If Barb say she needs to work another year do you really think we could retire now?"
If I worry about it, it's trying to get my wife to understand we could retire now and we would be in great financial shape. If I were to ask the group a question it would be this--How can I convince my wife we are good to go?
Why is this an important question for you and DW? Worrying about other people's business Is not something of any importance for me, especially when I have not bee asked for an opinion.
Meanwhile, Barb goes home from lunch and says to her DH: "The Qs have to have more money that we do and they are both still working--I guess I need to work another year...."
I will try to explain it one more time...
My DW and her friend (call her Barb, not real name) get together at least once per week. My wife says that her friend constantly brings up the idea that she NEEDS to work at least one more year. My wife comes home and starts asking me: "They've got to have more money saved than we do. If Barb say she needs to work another year do you really think we could retire now?"
I agree they've got to have more saved than we do, but I show her the retirement worksheet/survey from Fidelity that shows we will be in great shape, I show her the FIRECalc results and we're fine.
Repeat about once every other month.
To be clear, I don't bring it up. I don't talk about it. I don't worry about it. But my wife seems concerned about it.
If I worry about it, it's trying to get my wife to understand we could retire now and we would be in great financial shape. If I were to ask the group a question it would be this--How can I convince my wife we are good to go?
There seems to be such a focus by some on comparing themselves to others.
Average income, average retirement savings, average spending, average home value, average retirement age, average everything....
Why the huge focus on this? Is it a North American thing? Competition?
Without context the numbers are often meaningless. Is it all about feel good or ego?
We do not care about the Jones'. We only care about us.
- Concerns about healthcare. They only just became eligible for Medicare, so that could have been a driving factor. Now, they probably need to learn about options & how to do all of that.
- OMY. Retirement can be a massive life change, and that's not easy for most people.
- Conservative estimates, and/or wanting plenty of cushion prior to retiring.