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Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso) Give me a forum ...
I think more than anything, I would like to lose the urge to impose my vision of things on another. Maybe if I am selling something on commission, sure I have to influence my clients. But otherwise, I would like to always assume that people know what they are doing, and not try to influence them.
One reason I like dating rather than being married is that even when I get ego involved, I am a much less ego involved than when my wife was making decisions that really mattered to me either personally or in down-to-earth ways like earning or spending money or like child rearing. If someone I date should decide to get purple hair, I can calmly see how I like her with purple hair. All I have to decide is "go", or "no go".
If I can do it subtly and in a way that is welcome, I want to help those who are close to me, but that can be really tricky to pull off. My kids seem just as stubborn as I am, and it is more important to me to get along than to explain right thinking. But I have to admit, this is a work in progress.
When I was 3 years old my mother called me overbearing, and I would say that though this was not very nice it was pretty accurate.
Ha
One reason I like dating rather than being married is that even when I get ego involved, I am a much less ego involved than when my wife was making decisions that really mattered to me either personally or in down-to-earth ways like earning or spending money or like child rearing. If someone I date should decide to get purple hair, I can calmly see how I like her with purple hair. All I have to decide is "go", or "no go".
If I can do it subtly and in a way that is welcome, I want to help those who are close to me, but that can be really tricky to pull off. My kids seem just as stubborn as I am, and it is more important to me to get along than to explain right thinking. But I have to admit, this is a work in progress.
When I was 3 years old my mother called me overbearing, and I would say that though this was not very nice it was pretty accurate.
Ha