Cattusbabe
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What if there is a strong possibility these people are leg-breakers or may retain the services of leg-breakers? What course of action should be followed to keep the leg breaking to a minimum? Particularly my legs, DW's legs and my kids' legs?
FUEGO. You are getting really good advice to not lend the money. I have been where you are.
Brother with a drug problem palling around with dealers. Said brother owed dealers money. He had smoked it up.....as usual. They made him a deal.....handed him a gun and took him with them to off some other dealer. It did not go down since the intended target was not there so the hit was rescheduled.
Dear brother shows up on my door scared and needing to get out of town...fast. I stowed his stuff in the garage gave him some money and he hid out until he could leave. That was 17 years ago. He did the rehab bit and had been clean up until this past year.
At the ripe old age of fifty he has slipped back into his old life. This time the story I get is that a bag of.."product" to the tune of $8K came up missing and the blame was put on him. They want their money. You know where this is going. We get the sob story about his being strong armed and his needing $450 that night or they are going to kill me. DH and I gave it to him feeling that we were protecting my parents from having to bury their son. We were had since he sold the same story to my parents and got $500 from them.
We had a family meeting only with out dear brother to compare notes and to come up with a plan as to what to do. In the interest of protecting ours dear brother had to go and was told that. We have no contact with him and have had to wrap our heads around the possibility of Philly PD showing up at our door to go to the ME to ID what is left of him.
We can live with that. What we could not live with is his nonsense and the possibility of his bringing thugs to our door so he had to go.
I would try to be a support to your B-I-L ie a sounding board but no more. Keep the lines of communication about what she is telling you and the rest of the family so that she cannot play each of you off against each other. If she goes down then she goes down and you have to wrap your head around that.