What keeps you training past the black belt, and how do you balance it with the rest of your life?
After five years of three nights/week and a number of weekends, my daughter and I have earned our taekwondo black belts. It's been a heckuva ride and I've learned quite a bit about myself that I wish I'd experienced 40 years ago. It's been even more personal growth for our kid, and the belt is a great addition to her college applications. Life is good.
Now that the afterglow is fading I find myself wondering whether I should pursue the next goal. If I hang around for a year, perfecting my kicks and learning the next form, then I'll be eligible to repeat the test for my 2nd dan. I'm only 48 years old. This is (*groan*) within my abilities. But it's possible that my motivation has been more parental than personal.
Earning the belt has been a great parent-kid bonding experience. Showing my daughter how to pass the test's physical qualifiers (pushups, situps, a two-mile run) was a major life lesson for both of us. There was a wide variety of pain but we got through it and the accomplishment has been worth it. The belt test was a huge validation of her struggles and I enjoyed sharing the experience with her. For the rest of her life, when she calls us to vent about insurmountable problems, we'll reminisce about the black-belt test.
However I'm beginning to rue the price of [-]Boomeritis[/-] achievement. I'm probably at the top of my physical conditioning, but flaming out seems to happen a lot sooner and with even less warning. This month's three consecutive Saturdays of the six-hour test, the promotion ceremony, and a forms/sparring clinic burned me out. The Monday after all that I pretty much imploded and took a week off. Two weeks later I'm back at training, sort of, but still ambivalent. If I've had a busy day (or if I've missed a nap) then I don't really look forward to that evening's class.
On one hand I could continue training to set a good example for my daughter. But that's parental delusion-- she's mature enough to do it for her own self-interest. She claims she wants to rack up 2nd dan before she goes to college, and she thinks that'll keep her training all year long. If she's really committed then she certainly doesn't need me guilting her into it.
I tore my ACLs before we started taekwondo, but it forced me to figure out my knee problems and led me to orthopedic braces. An outstanding coach showed me how to hyperdevelop quads & hamstrings so that I can continue to avoid surgery. I don't need the braces anymore; I'm actually pain-free and I can do everything I need to do. OTOH I should do more "Younger Next Year" weight training along with the knee work, but I can only exert so much effort among so many activities before it turns into overtraining. I enjoy taekwondo's benefits on my balance, coordination, reflexes, and proprioception-- the only other activity that comes close is surfing. However it all adds up to 6-8 workouts a week to hold the line, and that doesn't include surfing or yardwork or spouse neighborhood walks.
I'm not sure what other reasons I'd have to keep showing up. Other taekwondo parents have younger kids who'll still benefit from parental nudging but I've seen plenty of bad examples. Tournaments have their moments but they're a 10-hour day. I can judge/coach but I'm not interested. We've made some friends at taekwondo, but it doesn't overlap with the rest of our social life. The remaining adults are there for the competition, the instructor experience/$$, or to meet hot chicks. From talking to other instructors I believe I'm the state's second-oldest active black belt, although I've also heard that the age 41-50 competitive category is growing. But it still shakes me up when the guys who look older than me turn out to be younger. Especially when they're owners of a dojang.
So what keeps you training, and how do you balance it with the rest of your life?
After five years of three nights/week and a number of weekends, my daughter and I have earned our taekwondo black belts. It's been a heckuva ride and I've learned quite a bit about myself that I wish I'd experienced 40 years ago. It's been even more personal growth for our kid, and the belt is a great addition to her college applications. Life is good.
Now that the afterglow is fading I find myself wondering whether I should pursue the next goal. If I hang around for a year, perfecting my kicks and learning the next form, then I'll be eligible to repeat the test for my 2nd dan. I'm only 48 years old. This is (*groan*) within my abilities. But it's possible that my motivation has been more parental than personal.
Earning the belt has been a great parent-kid bonding experience. Showing my daughter how to pass the test's physical qualifiers (pushups, situps, a two-mile run) was a major life lesson for both of us. There was a wide variety of pain but we got through it and the accomplishment has been worth it. The belt test was a huge validation of her struggles and I enjoyed sharing the experience with her. For the rest of her life, when she calls us to vent about insurmountable problems, we'll reminisce about the black-belt test.
However I'm beginning to rue the price of [-]Boomeritis[/-] achievement. I'm probably at the top of my physical conditioning, but flaming out seems to happen a lot sooner and with even less warning. This month's three consecutive Saturdays of the six-hour test, the promotion ceremony, and a forms/sparring clinic burned me out. The Monday after all that I pretty much imploded and took a week off. Two weeks later I'm back at training, sort of, but still ambivalent. If I've had a busy day (or if I've missed a nap) then I don't really look forward to that evening's class.
On one hand I could continue training to set a good example for my daughter. But that's parental delusion-- she's mature enough to do it for her own self-interest. She claims she wants to rack up 2nd dan before she goes to college, and she thinks that'll keep her training all year long. If she's really committed then she certainly doesn't need me guilting her into it.
I tore my ACLs before we started taekwondo, but it forced me to figure out my knee problems and led me to orthopedic braces. An outstanding coach showed me how to hyperdevelop quads & hamstrings so that I can continue to avoid surgery. I don't need the braces anymore; I'm actually pain-free and I can do everything I need to do. OTOH I should do more "Younger Next Year" weight training along with the knee work, but I can only exert so much effort among so many activities before it turns into overtraining. I enjoy taekwondo's benefits on my balance, coordination, reflexes, and proprioception-- the only other activity that comes close is surfing. However it all adds up to 6-8 workouts a week to hold the line, and that doesn't include surfing or yardwork or spouse neighborhood walks.
I'm not sure what other reasons I'd have to keep showing up. Other taekwondo parents have younger kids who'll still benefit from parental nudging but I've seen plenty of bad examples. Tournaments have their moments but they're a 10-hour day. I can judge/coach but I'm not interested. We've made some friends at taekwondo, but it doesn't overlap with the rest of our social life. The remaining adults are there for the competition, the instructor experience/$$, or to meet hot chicks. From talking to other instructors I believe I'm the state's second-oldest active black belt, although I've also heard that the age 41-50 competitive category is growing. But it still shakes me up when the guys who look older than me turn out to be younger. Especially when they're owners of a dojang.
So what keeps you training, and how do you balance it with the rest of your life?