Poll: How long have you been married (current marriage)?

[Scotsman at Heart]

At pushing 62 each, we have been married for 42 years. So very hard to train in a new one at this age.....


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[haha]

In Colorado that is the same as the formal bureaucratic kind of marriage -- and incredibly easy to create. In addition, it has the same "rights, privileges, and headaches" when ending such an arrangement.

Common Law Marriage | Colorado Divorce & Family Law Guide

Stealth marriage is pretty common. Women's groups and divorce lawyers make a natural coalition to lobby for various gotcha(s)

I am sure I can get along fine with a love relationship near at hand but me living alone. I think you get a little more sex if you are in a committed relationship and live together, compared to the same relationship with separate beds. Still, to me it is not worth the added risk. If I found out that I got accidentally married I would be one unhappy man. Also, certain events that might claim your life if alone might be handled better with a live -in partner, but again, once you are dead, not much difference.

Ha

 

[W2R]

Stealth marriage is pretty common. Women's groups and divorce lawyers make a natural coalition to lobby for various gotcha(s)

I am sure I can get along fine with a love relationship near at hand but me living alone. I think you get a little more sex if you are in a committed relationship and live together, compared to the same relationship with separate beds. Still, to me it is not worth the added risk. If I found out that I got accidentally married I would be one unhappy man. Also, certain events that might claim your life if alone might be handled better with a live -in partner, but again, once you are dead, not much difference.

Ha

Honestly I don't think living/sleeping together, or not, makes any difference at all in the amount of sex if you are spending hours together every day. Nature will have its way, y'know?

I do wonder sometimes what would happen if I was in those "I've fallen and I can't get up!" situations. But we do spend every single afternoon together, and both of us have a key to the other's house. He would surely investigate if I did not answer the phone. Over the years we have had to do that a couple of times, when the other is completely incapacitated by severe illness, back issues, or whatever.

We have no desire to end up accidently married either, although I don't think that would happen in Louisiana. Still, we prefer to live separately right now for a variety of reasons. I know that married people have great reasons for being married, too, but in our case we both prefer living separately and staying single.

 

[Bestwifeever]

I had a friend who used to say she preferred a man in her life but not in her house. The one in her house made sure she got her wish.

 

[haha]

Honestly I don't think living/sleeping together, or not, makes any difference at all in the amount of sex if you are spending hours together every day. Nature will have its way, y'know?

Maybe. But I may need some tutelage. Today after the football game I asked friend, Hey, if you're feeling the need for some sex today, just let me know.

Nada.

Ha

 

[Accidental Retiree]

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[sengsational]

27 years for me.

There is a tax BENEFIT if one spouse is SAHM or has lower income and the other has higher income.

I didn't know that, but DW hasn't earned a paycheck in 23 years (after DD1 was born).

 

[athena53]

Married for 11 years to current DH, who's my second husband.


I'm likely to outlive him because he's 15 years older and has some health issues and if that happens I doubt I'll marry again. I'd love the companionship of another good man and I'm open to that, but there are too many financial entanglements the state imposes on married couples.

 

[Gatordoc50]

29 years and counting.

 

[rodi]

27 years for me.


I didn't know that, but DW hasn't earned a paycheck in 23 years (after DD1 was born).

It's the way the joint income tiers work... Your joint income is/was just your income. So you're in a lower tier than if your wife had added income. The joint income tiers are less than double the single income in the higher tiers.

(It's a wash in the lower income tiers - 15% and lower.)

 

[RonBoyd]

Today's Dilbert (despite being labeled 1-6-14):

 

[MikeD]

I've known my wife since she was 16 and I was 17. We met when both of our families separately picked Chincoteague, Va as a summer vacation destination. So I've known her for over 43 years and been married for over 38. I love being married. The fact that my wife married me has enhanced my life to the point of literally saving my life dozens of times. With all my medical problems, I wouldn't even be here right now if not for her. And I would definitely not be retired!

I am one happily married dude!

Mike D.