CuppaJoe
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I guess later has figured it out since she hasn't been back.....
Let's not let that slow us down.
I guess later has figured it out since she hasn't been back.....
This is excellent news! I know Khan has some limitiations with respect to manual tasks, as do I. I have a once a month cleaning done top to bottom, then I just have to maintain it in between....I have recently rehired a housekeeper.
This is excellent news! I know Khan has some limitiations with respect to manual tasks, as do I. I have a once a month cleaning done top to bottom, then I just have to maintain it in between.
A hybrid approach......my living space is well kept up by the cleaner and I am not under obligation to do the full set of cleaning duties on any schedule.
Some people may look at having a housecleaner as an indulgence. If so, then this is by far the best indulgence you can treat yourself to. Housecleaning, is, well, too much like w*rk!
It violates the spirit of FIRE.
I have assumed duties of financial cop, laundry slave, and cookmeister since I FIREd. It was the sweet spot of the deal I worked with dh2b prior to my early exit from the high stress life of a rabid c*reer girl. I am so much happier. He gets home cooked meals all ready when he gets home and folded underwear. Life is good.
Justify?A small piece of my brain tells me: "You can't justify this. You are retired and have the time to do housework; you have only a small pension; it's a small house; a woman should be able to maintain her house..."
%^&* all of it. I don't like housecleaning. I'm not good at it. It hurts.
I would gladly be a househusband..... I am a good cook, my mom taught me how to clean, and I press clothes like noone's business. However, I will NOT wear any French maid outfits.......
IHowever, I will NOT wear any French maid outfits.......
Make that two!Well, I for one, would love to see you in a French maid outfit
How about an American "made" outfit?I would gladly be a househusband..... I am a good cook, my mom taught me how to clean, and I press clothes like noone's business. However, I will NOT wear any French maid outfits.......
Make that two!
I can't post it here and stay within forum rules, but go to YouTube and search on "The StripTease in the Full Monty". Warning - the video clip is not for the faint hearted.
You can leave your hat on!
Tales from another broken love:
EX decided that once we were married, I would become a good wife (and do housework).
Thing was, I had a higher tolerance for squalor.
I have recently rehired a housekeeper.
Sit your hubby down and have a talk about potential scenario's, there is only one i can think of and it goes something like this, basically he will become responsible for all housework and related chores(cooking.cleaning,shopping ETC) and you will become irate if he doesnt conform because your new favorite saying will be "well i had to work all day" When both partners are working an unspoken routine sets in whereby the housework is divided but once he retires its all over ,he's now the house slave so tell him that the dishes and laundry better be done before you go off golfing,fishing,biking etc.
My late husband retired before me and the only problem was I had to let go of some of my standards . He would do the laundry but not fold it and that would drive me crazy . He also did not cook but would get take out . I am now retired and my SO still works part time . When I retired he stopped cooking ( He used to do a third of the cooking ) and at first i tried to stall him out to see who would cook . Now I just accept that I am the cook except when I go on strike .
I guess you may be joking. I wonder where in the US could a man with an English speaking wife get away with this sort of attitude? For OP's DH's sake, perhaps he may want to delay his retirement.
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Put dinner in the crock pot before you head out to the beach.My husband will retire in 2 years and I will work for an additional 8 years. Has anyone had this experience? Does anyone have any advice?
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Will you take your shirt off to wash dishes?
Well, I for one, would love to see you in a French maid outfit
How about an American "made" outfit?
I love this. Most men and women won't admit to these little games. When we were both young, my ex would sometimes try to stall me out on sex, to get me to do some chore or other. She hated that she would usually cave first because she had a more driving need than I.Ha