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There is a very high rate of marriage success among board members, which to some degree might reflect selection bias and also survival bias. No easier way to bust an ER than to create two marginal portfolios out of one substantial one, and suffer a lot of frictional loss in the transition.Wow. I just came back to this thread and skimmed through. It seems like the vast majority are down on marriage. That surprises me since it doesn't fit with my experiences - most of my friends have been married for years and don't express substantial angst. Maybe some of you poll constructors should develop a poll to gather more comprehensive views.
Also the sort of person who will drive a used car forever, or wait years until some desired item can be found for 25 cents at a garage sale is not likely to be very impulsive in other areas either.
Marriage is not for intense satisfaction or for pleasure, it is for survival, (a feeling of) security, and contentment- and for the right persons it is very good for that purpose.
To get personal, it worked pretty well for me and my ex for many years.
Still, new circumstances allow for new thinking, and though few middle aged ER.org members would likely seek to improve their living by instigating a divorce, once presented with singleness, I am not surprised that a fair number of us have "been there, done that", and elect other paths. Some of us like broader social relationships than are often fostered in coupledom. I don't mean sexual , I actually mean social, as in the freedom to do what, with whom, and when you want to. Not a real common part of a typical marriage.
There is also the sexual angle. A young man may at least imagine that he would like to have his sex partner in house, and cut out on so much burning the candle at both ends going out to clubs etc meeting girls. So his GF moves in. Then, if he has a decent job and is not a totally unappealing man, she will often start a campaign to bring about the bride thing. Takes a strong man to say, OK, go ahead and leave, you are cute and sweet and wonderful in bed, and I even love you -but I don't want the rest. So often enough, he gets married.
But unless a 60+ year old man is hopelessly dependent, or rushing things before giving himself a chance to find out the good parts of being alone, this is not likely to happen, since for the amount of sex that he needs, it really isn't that big a deal to go across town once or twice a week. He may even find all he can handle in his building, or right in his cul-de-sac.
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