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Old 01-26-2012, 12:19 PM   #21
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When I was working, I was quite introverted. I rarely, if ever, wanted to have anything to do with nonwork office activities which involved other coworkers. For example, I never attended the evening holiday party in all the 23 years I worked. I rarely, if ever, went to any group luncheons unless I absolutely had to (and I disliked those a lot). I mainly kept to myself and just wanted to get home after a long day at work and the long, awful commute.

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I would still classify you as an introvert, because the activities that put you in the spotlight are the ones that you control - and can walk away from whenever you want.

In addition to never understanding how people can get excited about going to a party, I've never understood the question "aren't you lonely?" Duh....nooooo!

You start to wonder if we're a different species, after awhile.
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Old 01-26-2012, 12:36 PM   #22
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I am an introvert. True story:

I was at a regional work christmas party where I knew very few. My boss, seeing that I was not being social, walked up and asked why. I told him that I just wasn't very good in that type of social setting. He laughed and said let me show you how. We're going to have a pleasant conversation with the next two people we see.

A couple walked up and we proceeded to have a very nice conversation. After they drifted away, my very prim and proper boss turned to me and said "See? Wasn't that easy? You just have to pretend to give a f@ck."

To this day whenever I have to go to a party I tell my wife "Looks like its time for me to go pretend I give a f@ck." Always gets a giggle from her.
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Old 01-26-2012, 03:27 PM   #23
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Wasn't that easy? You just have to pretend to give a f@ck."
That's a great story, and I laughed out loud.

BUT, here's the thing. It's not that it isn't easy to socialize when you're an introvert. It can be easy but still unpleasant and tiring.

I can be a great conversationalist, and networker, because I know how to do it (Carnegie's Make Friends and Influence People explains it clearly: just the the other person to talk about themselves (aka pretend you give a f@ck). But I don't like it.
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I hear you, T-Al. I can do it. I just don't like to.

The story would be even funnier to you if I could tell you where my former boss works. Suffice it to say that he is one of the top people now at a MAJOR national youth oriented nonprofit that teaches leadership and values.

The cognitivie dissonance I got from his attitude towards dealing w/people v the values the organization teaches was enough to make one see double.
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A couple walked up and we proceeded to have a very nice conversation. After they drifted away, my very prim and proper boss turned to me and said "See? Wasn't that easy? You just have to pretend to give a ____"
Only effective in some situations IMO, but it reminds me of a funny (work related) saying I ran across many years ago that always stuck in my head. No idea where it originated.

"The key to success is sincerity. Once you can fake that, you've got it made."
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