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My building is pretty small, and we have no resident manager. Some people stay to themselves, and others are much more outgoing. I know several of the younger couples, and the young woman across the hallway from me, and a few of the owner-residents. Some of these single guys are prone to becoming depressed. One guy about my age, I have always made an effort to be friendly to, as he is a high quality person who is also terribly shy.
Recently he has gone missing for about one week. I checked with a few other residents who have not seen him either. He is usually visible because he is our landscaper, and also he doesn't drive so he can be seen entering and leaving the building. He drinks, alone, and as I say he is depression prone. Especially long sieges of poor weather get to him. I don't think he has a girlfriend or boyfriend, or perhaps no friends at all- I have never seen anyone with him, in 2 1/2 years. I know he has no children, no ex-wife and no sibs that he is still in contact with.
I am concerned that he may have fallen and been injured, and we won't see him until his flat starts stinking. He isn't frail, in fact he appears to be in excellent physical condition, but I know that he falls, likely when drinking, because he lives above me and I have had heavy drinking older neighbors before, and know the patterns.
He used to pick up his paper at the entryway, and drop mine off as he passed by my floor since he arises early. But for the last week I have been picking up his, and they are just collecting outside his door where I drop them. I knocked on his door and got no response, but I also know that depressed guys can go into hibernation where they do not want to be bothered and particularly do not want to relate to anyone.
I am pretty sure he would tell me if he were going on a trip, as I make it a point to tell him when I expect to be gone a while, like during my surgery and recovery stay at my GF's. Still, one never knows with these very shy people. He is cognitively sharp.
So I don't want to interfere, but I would hate it if is he is up there dead or worse yet dying. What would you do? Anything?
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Recently he has gone missing for about one week. I checked with a few other residents who have not seen him either. He is usually visible because he is our landscaper, and also he doesn't drive so he can be seen entering and leaving the building. He drinks, alone, and as I say he is depression prone. Especially long sieges of poor weather get to him. I don't think he has a girlfriend or boyfriend, or perhaps no friends at all- I have never seen anyone with him, in 2 1/2 years. I know he has no children, no ex-wife and no sibs that he is still in contact with.
I am concerned that he may have fallen and been injured, and we won't see him until his flat starts stinking. He isn't frail, in fact he appears to be in excellent physical condition, but I know that he falls, likely when drinking, because he lives above me and I have had heavy drinking older neighbors before, and know the patterns.
He used to pick up his paper at the entryway, and drop mine off as he passed by my floor since he arises early. But for the last week I have been picking up his, and they are just collecting outside his door where I drop them. I knocked on his door and got no response, but I also know that depressed guys can go into hibernation where they do not want to be bothered and particularly do not want to relate to anyone.
I am pretty sure he would tell me if he were going on a trip, as I make it a point to tell him when I expect to be gone a while, like during my surgery and recovery stay at my GF's. Still, one never knows with these very shy people. He is cognitively sharp.
So I don't want to interfere, but I would hate it if is he is up there dead or worse yet dying. What would you do? Anything?
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