Moemg
Gone but not forgotten
I've got to be sure my DW never See's this thread.
This fix her breakfast & pack lunch stuff is frightening.
Steve
Leave her an instant oatmeal package and a few bucks for lunch and you are good to go !
I've got to be sure my DW never See's this thread.
This fix her breakfast & pack lunch stuff is frightening.
Steve
My answers are sort of semi.how much longer do you plan to work
how long has he been retired
what does he do that drives you crazy
what does he not do that drives you crazy
did he take over some of the "chores" on his own or did you have to push
does he want you to retire soon
do you have any special plans to do together when you are both retired
We are both avid players...end-game raiders primarily...and our guild is made up of several married teams. I'd say learn to play so you can appreciate what he's talking about sometimes. It's great fun.....certainly a challenge sometimes....and the headsets with microphones are so attractive!
oops! I guess decompose was not the word I meant to use but with DH's inactivity of late it probably was not that far off the mark!
In my case I got a generous buy out with pension and paid health care at age 54. DW will not qualify for a pension and paid health care until she is age 60. I sure as heck wasn't gonna work for 9 more years to make it all even. She enjoys her career still and I do all the heavy lifting at home. I can't imagine that she would be happy holding my retirement hostage. It works for us.This whole topic seems alien to me. I've got to say, I can't really relate to the mindset where one half of a couple is able to retire, but the other half isn't.
You might change your opinion if you divorced midlife and wrote a check with enough zeros. When you remarry in midlife and there are step-kids, things get much more complicated.We've always treated our marriage like a partnership. We're a team. There's no "my money" or "your money," it's all "our money."
Are you suggesting running a gross-out competition against a guy, let alone an ER'd guy with the time on his hands to devote to a world-class effort of winning such a competition?
Sorry, I keep meaning to bow out of this thread, but the slow fat pitches keep hanging right over the plate...
For DH and I it is good that we both play since it gives us a common interest and we enjoy talking about it and we can help each other at times.
On the other hand it is bad as our play styles are so different. I'm the end game raider. DH is the altoholic who loves to level up. I have plenty of alts too but when I level an alt up I then start gearing them up to at least starting raid level. DH is sort of done with them for all intents and purposes when they get to 85. He gets annoyed with me for telling him everything he is doing wrong and I get annoyed at him for not taking my good advice (a little bit of an exaggeration but not much).
For a few months last year we were living in separate houses 10 minutes apart (we had our house on the market and he stayed in our other house with our pets while we were trying to focus on selling the house). During that time we both had headsets with microphones and we would talk on Skype while each of us was playing. I would be doing heroics (I obviously couldn't talk to him while in raids) or something and he would be questing and we would have a grand time just chatting.
When we both got back into the same house sharing an office we talked less because we each had our headphones on so we couldn't hear anymore what each other was saying...we actually talked less than when we were in different houses.
Funny. I cannot help but think that a thread by a man complaining about his lazy housewife spouse would get a slightly less warm reception than this one.
Early in our marriage, when I was [-]young & stupid[/-] much more idealistic than I am today, I made an offhand comment about optimal dishwasher packing.And Nords, we've had those gross out competitions. I "win" every time he has to clean the bathrooms.
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Early in our marriage, when I was [-]young & stupid[/-] much more idealistic than I am today, I made an offhand comment about optimal dishwasher packing.
30 years later I'm still in charge of dishwasher loading. But it's optimal...
I wouldn't say this is guys. Maybe "some guys".What is up with guys and dishwashers ? Gary waits until I am asleep and then he rearranges it .
What is up with guys and dishwashers ? Gary waits until I am asleep and then he rearranges it .
Early in our marriage, when I was [-]young & stupid[/-] much more idealistic than I am today, I made an offhand comment about optimal dishwasher packing.
30 years later I'm still in charge of dishwasher loading.
What is up with guys and dishwashers ? Gary waits until I am asleep and then he rearranges it .
Oh yes, there is a science to it. Things must be arranged in such a way to reduce 'shadowing', so that dishes get maximum exposure to the water streams. It's important (well, to us obsessive people).Dishwashers are built with a single logical arrangement. Putting things in in any different order is suboptimal. If your dishes are different colors they need to be put in proper order by color too.
Funny. I cannot help but think that a thread by a man complaining about his lazy housewife spouse would get a slightly less warm reception than this one.
What is up with guys and dishwashers ? Gary waits until I am asleep and then he rearranges it .
And yet, if DW nests two bowls and runs it, and I leave the one that now has baked on crud on the counter for her as an example of what poor packing leads to, it's somehow my fault? Such is life.
-ERD50
Better leave a jar of petroleum jelly next to your example - should reduce discomfort when she uses it to perform a colonsocopy on you.Things must be arranged in such a way to reduce 'shadowing', so that dishes get maximum exposure to the water streams. It's important (well, to us obsessive people).
....if DW nests two bowls and runs it, and I leave the one that now has baked on crud on the counter for her as an example of what poor packing leads to...
See, I knew someone else on the planet would understand!!Dishwashers are built with a single logical arrangement. Putting things in in any different order is suboptimal. If your dishes are different colors they need to be put in proper order by color too.
In this case the "negotiation" turned out to be that when our daughter left for college, spouse would assume her dishwasher-unloading duties. I'm happy to let her have that task, although I can't help pointing out how much more quickly it unloads (and how infrequently it has to be unloaded) as a result of the optimal packing.In the words of the wise:
"in ER [...] everything should be up for re-negotiation. People change, and they should have a chance to change the deal".
Are we related?...So I try to get it arranged before someone runs it. And yet, if DW nests two bowls and runs it, and I leave the one that now has baked on crud on the counter for her as an example of what poor packing leads to, it's somehow my fault? Such is life.
-ERD50