Here is a totally separate line of thought that I have not seen addressed. I may be way off - but you might consider what, if any part of your reluctance to leave your current position could stem from not wanting to become the minor bread winner.
In the beginning of our marriage I was the major bread winner for our family. When I chose to cut back at work and raise kids the mental switch I felt that involved a loss of power & control shocked me. The move to trusting his income (and perhaps him ) over mine was a major adjustment. I had to deal with more mental issues with the income shift than I had in making the commitment to marry. (This would definitely have been mitigated however by a huge financial cushion- we had none . ) Feelings are not good or bad - they just are and acknowledging them is the first step to dealing with them .
In the beginning of our marriage I was the major bread winner for our family. When I chose to cut back at work and raise kids the mental switch I felt that involved a loss of power & control shocked me. The move to trusting his income (and perhaps him ) over mine was a major adjustment. I had to deal with more mental issues with the income shift than I had in making the commitment to marry. (This would definitely have been mitigated however by a huge financial cushion- we had none . ) Feelings are not good or bad - they just are and acknowledging them is the first step to dealing with them .