mountaintosea
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I really don't understand this guilt thing? Very strange. I've been retired around 10 months and still loving it.
"Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness". As written in that most sacred of documents, the US Constitution. Everybody has the right to those things, and why should I feel guilty if I achieve them?
Now, I do sometimes feel bad that people I care for will not enjoy the freedoms I have, but it says somewhere in the Bible (or the script of Jesus Christ, Superstar) "the poor will be with us always". Poor by my definition meaning lack of FI. I worked hard to get where I am, and I got lucky in many ways too. I'm thankful, but not guilty.
No, Do you feel guilty still working and taking time away from your family and wasting gas by driving (probably alone ) to work and letting your health slide because you do not have time to work out and getting stressed and taking it out on your loved ones because you are working ?
Actually, that's in the Declaration of Independence.
I agree with all the comments on "contributing to society". It's such an ambiguous term, and it means something different to everyone.
An emotionally / psychologically healthy person shouldn't feel guilty about enjoying themselves, provided only that no one else is harmed. Surely we've matured beyond the tyranny of Webers' Protestant work ethic [see generally http://www.anxietyculture.com/puritan.htm].Do you feel guilty about ER ... having too much fun, life shouldn't be this good?
As a marriage veteran and a parent I'm frequently under pressure to feel guilty in spite of my clear conscience...I would have to have done something wrong to feel guilty about.
As a marriage veteran and a parent I'm frequently under pressure to feel guilty in spite of my clear conscience...
Perhaps you and spouse should have a chat with your daughter. From what I have observed, such entitlement attitudes often become more entrenched as time passes (although I'm sure there are exceptions).my 15 y.o. daughter displays no sense of guilt as she grabs everything she can to "enjoy herself" and does not care what it costs those around her. All in good time I guess.
Perhaps you and spouse should have a chat with your daughter. From what I have observed, such entitlement attitudes often become more entrenched as time passes (although I'm sure there are exceptions).
Our 15-year-old is about to turn 16, and I'd call that age-appropriate behavior that's not worth worrying about. Of course it should still be called attention to whenever it happens and compared to adult standards.LOL We do chat quite often ...... Quite a different personality than her college aged sister, but isn't that always how it seems to go......
I'm glad to hear that they improve by college age. That's what you're implying, right, that they improve?
Our 15-year-old is about to turn 16, and I'd call that age-appropriate behavior that's not worth worrying about. Of course it should still be called attention to whenever it happens and compared to adult standards.
I'm glad to hear that they improve by college age. That's what you're implying, right, that they improve?
have not read the other posts....Do you feel guilty about ER?
e.g.
- should still be w*rking, contributing to society?
- having too much fun, life shouldn't be this good?
...Vick
Is that guilt? Has anyone else dealt with anything like that with close friends as regards their own ER.
...While we always talk about how his business is doing & what's going on with that, and my "job", I really couldn't talk with him about my Semi-ER plans (& the concomitant excitement I have about it) knowing how many hours a week he's worked diligently for that many years & the prospect that the business "taking off" or retirement is nowhere in his forseeable future. I'm increasingly noticing a distance between us that seems to be related to that issue.
Is that guilt? Has anyone else dealt with anything like that with close friends as regards their own ER.