What has it been like for FIREd women on the forum?
Do you get asked "What do you do all day"?
or told - "You're too young to be retired."
or "How can you afford it?" and so on.
I got lots of questions, concern and push back as a FIRE man.
I'm not retired quite yet, but I've had most of those questions. Here is how I answer some of the questions I get:
(1)"What will you do all day?" (Answer #1: "I have a million things I want to do" and then listing them one after the other until the person walks away. Answer #2: "My companion Frank and I are going to get our houses ready to sell, put them on the market, sell them, move to southern Missouri, rent there, look for houses close together there, buy, renovate, and decorate them, and get to know my new community - - and all this should take up the first couple of years.")
(2)"Why are you going to retire?" (Answer: "I have other things that I want to do with my life than work, and I plan to throw my alarm clock into Lake Ponchartrain!")
(3)"Are you sure you can afford it?" (Answer: "Yes, my house is paid off, I don't need much, and thank goodness for the TSP and the G Fund.")
I am 61 and look every day of it (the avatar is not me), so I don't get "You're too young to be retired".
Danny, I really feel like all of these questions are very natural ones for people to ask. They are curious, often more than a little envious, and concerned that I might not have thought through this retirement idea. They know that many people must defer retirement due to the economy and want to make sure that I will be OK. I think maybe as a single, older woman with no relatives nearby I might inspire more protective feelings from people than a man might, but I don't mind that at all.