Expenses Beyond the "Parties"
As father of the bride (no, I'm not Steve Martin), I was observant of the entire process and expenses incurred by several involved entities (mostly bride's parents in this neck of the Midwest).
Beyond the cost of the "Rehearsal Dinner" (can be paid by groom to be parents, bride to be parents, couple to be married, rich relatives or other), and the wedding reception itself, add the (optional) costs of at least two sets of invitations (if you go to a third party printer), flowers, limos, wedding planner, transportation to/from events, purchased or rented attire, makeup/hairdresser fees, musicians (Deejay or live bands - an aside, we hired live bands for both weddings, and just like back in 1970's it WAS better), etc.
Then, there is the cost of Bridal Showers and gifts for same, engagement party if held, Bachelor and Bride party (nowadays often way out of town).
Oh, and marriage license fees, minister or civic fees, and on and on.....
Forgot to mention that on Sunday, the day after the big day, an informal get together (BBQ) for the out of towners is to be expected.
Too often, 3 to 36 months later, marriage counselor expenses, attorney and divorce court costs (why you cynic, you ! ). Hopefully no bail money involved for any of the above events
Yes, we had a relation spilt up 3 mos. after the huge wedding - too late to put a stop payment on our generous cash gift.