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Loud music (whatever type he hates), especially during his sleeping hours. Cook up some kimchee or other delicious and smelly recipes. Drum circles. Figure out his political bent and invite over the other side for fun discussions. Religion works too.
I can chase people out of my house without even trying. It should be easy if you're truly motivated.
"Good judgment comes from experience. Experience comes from bad judgement." - Will Rogers
DW and I - FIREd at 50 (7/06), living off assets
Start surreptitiously moving his things around the house when no one is looking. Turn his clean socks inside out in the drawer. Hopefully, you are not being an enabler and doing his laundry and stuff for him. Or cooking for him. Or running errands. If you are, then stop. If DH complains, then guess what? I'm assuming you've already made your feelings clear to your spouse. If not, shame on you. Communication is key to any successful marriage. Make the same feelings clear to FIL. No success? Take a vacation all by yourself go a weekend. Find a hotel close to work for a week. One with a nice bar. Nothing cheap. Leave the two of them alone for a while to fend for themselves.
But I'm serious about the enabling aspect. If you're enabling the situation by quietly going along with it, you've nothing to complain about. You're being part of the problem, and FIL will never leave. Why should he? He's got someone to all the chores his wife used to handle so he doesn't have to deal with them
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