Living With Your Children

[Brat]

dunc0029:
Husband had a colleague whose father lived in a Vets home because of alzheimer's.  It wasn't a bad place at all.

Look at Vets Home facilities to determine if your father qualifies.  If that is really an option (even if he must get on a waiting list) you will have a lot less guilt about not letting him live with you. 

My brother is a Vietnam vet who recently divorced and lost his health insurance.  He was accepted by his local Veteran's hospital/clinic facility but there were a number of qualifying factors and a headcount limit. 

Get your father's ... head on a waiting list if possible. 

He's pathologically irresponsible and dependent ( which is why he's 62 with no job, no savings, no car, no house, no unburned bridges with relatives ).

He may have psy issues which qualify him for residency.  Another problem, long term, may be keeping him there.  These folks tend to walk because of difficulty dealing with structure.  You may need to create an enviornment that makes the Vet's home look like heaven when compared to his other housing options.

 

[ESRBob]

We had my wife's parents living with us for 10 years while our kids were young. It worked out pretty well, but now they are happily living back in the City (they are from China and love urban life) and we are all relaxing a bit more around the house. It was really great while the kids were young, though -- they often babysat for us, and the kids have warm relations with them.

It does require a house large enough to keep people from getting under each others' feet, though! Then, since they moved out, we've been left with more house than we need, but no desire to move from a place we love.