Marriage--post retirement

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On my part time schedule, I am not working the month of February.  We (and our dogs) are taking a trip in our motorhome.  We will see how living so closely together goes.

I hope you are going south-if I remember correctly you live in Minnesota? Hard to imagine a stiffer test of close quarters compatability than 2 people, and a couple of dogs in motorhome in the rain and snow.

Anyway, I am not so sure that stress tests are all that good an idea. A marriage can have many benefits- so what if you irritate one another in daily close contact? (I am not commenting on what your situation may or may not be, just a general observation.)

Anyhow, my best wishes for a fun time. Since it is your vacation, you need to enjoy it.

Mikey

 

[Martha]

Poor guy, he must really love you a lot to so egregiously violate the first rule of spouse longevity: "Ensure that you're always worth more alive than dead."

We both have the problem. A benefit of my job is a pile of life insurance on my life. He would make out like a bandit if I was gone.

Saturday, I scrubbed all the grout lines and the ceramic tile in the bathroom up to the ceiling. While I was working on it, I called DH into the bathroom and said "you need to watch me scrub the bathroom so you know what to do when I am gone. This needs to be done once a month, like it or not". He said he would sell the house first.

 

[Martha]

I hope you are going south-if I remember correctly you live in Minnesota? Hard to imagine a stiffer test of close quarters compatability than 2 people, and a couple of dogs in motorhome in the rain and snow.

Anyway, I am not so sure that stress tests are all that good an idea. A marriage can have many benefits- so what if you irritate one another in daily close contact? (I am not commenting on what your situation may or may not be, just a general observation.)

Anyhow, my best wishes for a fun time. Since it is your vacation, you need to enjoy it.

Mikey

We are going south as fast as we can drive. It is 23 below zero today and we have almost run out of places to put snow.

 

[Cut-Throat]

We are going south as fast as we can drive.  It is 23 below zero today and we have almost run out of places to put snow.

Why do we Live in this Frozen Tundra? - I ask myself this question every year. By April, those spring days suck me in for another year. 8)

Cut-Throat - A Minnesotan for over 50 years.

 

[John Galt]

Hi C-T. ..................Re. being a "Minnesotan", you are a
masochist as well as a liberal (but a hell of a fisherman)..........................Just a theory

Back on topic. I have been thinking some more about
this issue. I have decided it would be a big adjustment
if we were together all the time, and some alarm bells
go off when I consider the practical effects. Anyway,
I have promised myself that snowbirding to Texas
officially starts next winter (assuming I remain above ground). My DW shows no signs of cutting back on her work, so she will have to manage the time off to go
south, or take her chances on finding work upon our return. Another option is for me to go and her to stay
up north. I would not like that much. Not sure what she would think. Finally, I do take the Cut-Throat view
of my loafing while DW works. We have an agreeable
division of expenses for now. My part is covered by my
investments. Her part is covered by her employment.
Like I said, for now this all seems to work just fine.

JG

 

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Back on topic.  I have been thinking some more about this issue.  I have decided it would be a big adjustment
if we were together all the time, and some alarm bells
go off when I consider the practical effects.  Anyway,
I have promised myself that snowbirding to Texas
officially starts next winter (assuming I remain above ground).  My DW shows no signs of cutting back on her work, so she will have to manage the time off to go
south, or take her chances on finding work upon our return.  Another option is for me to go and her to stay
up north.  I would not like that much.  Not sure what she would think.  Finally, I do take the Cut-Throat view
of my loafing while DW works.  We have an agreeable
division of expenses for now.  My part is covered by my
investments.  Her part is covered by her employment.
Like I said, for now this all seems to work just fine.

JG

John, I really don't see where she has any choice but to keep working. You apparently have not endowed her; as you say your part of expenses comes from your capital, her part from her labor. Yet you expect her to follow you south and hunt for a new job when she gets back.

Huh? Why would any sane person do this? Wouldn't be prudent. And, you may find that this sort of demand may challenge your pre-nup, should push come to shove.

Maybe you two could think of some plan that would respect her economic need to work, but also allow you a bit of winter time in your Texas home until she can make her own secure retirement?


Mikey

 

[JOhn Galt]

Jeez Mikey. I missed this one. A thousand pardons

My wife will never achieve a "secure retirement" on her own. Plus, she is not doing work she enjoys, only to produce a paycheck. I can see little value in her hanging onto this position regardless of her employer's view of
her taking 3 months off. Bottom line is that her
retirement (time indeterminate) is absolutely
dependent on what I have managed to accumulate.
No amount of wishing (or time) will change that fact.
That's just the way it is.

JG