Red Badger
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
Must. Do. What. What. The. Hell. I. WANT! To. Do.
Surely a 'bucket list' is, (or should be), comprised of things you always wanted to do, places you always wanted to visit, and previously had neither the time or the money to do so?
If the Dr. gave you bad news tomorrow, what would you regret, if anything? If there is anything there, do that NOW!
I have a lot of life ahead of me. I plan on living it and enjoying it. Sitting around is not my idea of living.
I have - and you are a personal inspiration to me.Note the tagline.
Reminds me of the great Zig Ziglar line: I got nowhere to go, and nothing to do when I get there!I started my day with nothing to do and at the end of the day I still had not accomplished anything.
I somewhat agree with you, but when you are pre-retirement you have all these things and typically a 40+ hr a week job. And if you have a family, then many of your travel locations were where they wanted to go doing things they wanted to do. The bucket list idea is good in that it goves you things to think about, and goals to shoot for that incorporate planning for finances, accounting for health etc. You dont have to make your buckrt list a new career, but it does help to set priorities for planning etc.I have a lot of must-do's, referred to as "chores" and "responsibilities." Taking care of the house and yard, paying the bills, ensuring meals are nutritious, going to the gym, etc.
I do sense, via Internet discussions of retirement, occasional little inferences that I am supposed to "downsize" or shuck off these things, in order to have as much "fun" as others are supposedly having. Their ideas of fun may not match mine....and any inferences that others are supposed to do this or that is, in my view, nothing but peer pressure. "I do this, so everybody oughta, or else they're wrongheaded."
Things like bucket lists are not the enemy, they are just more options on the shelf. Buy what you like.
I deeply resent anybody telling me what I should do. I do what I want to do. ...
I was just talking with my brother the other day. He was reluctantly on a hike with some people up some hill (mountain) in the Phoenix area when he decided he wasn't going any further. He went on to explain it was something on their bucket list but he decided it was on his f*ckit list!
I somewhat agree with you, but when you are pre-retirement you have all these things and typically a 40+ hr a week job. And if you have a family, then many of your travel locations were where they wanted to go doing things they wanted to do. The bucket list idea is good in that it goves you things to think about, and goals to shoot for that incorporate planning for finances, accounting for health etc. You dont have to make your buckrt list a new career, but it does help to set priorities for planning etc.
I was just talking with my brother the other day. He was reluctantly on a hike with some people up some hill (mountain) in the Phoenix area when he decided he wasn't going any further. He went on to explain it was something on their bucket list but he decided it was on his f*ckit list!
I love it!
Seriously, what are the valid reasons to care what someone else thinks? Can think of three:
One is the social compact. But in a compact, both parties have mutual obligation and mutual benefit. Out of all the people who collectively create “societal expectations,” exactly how many are going to come to the aid of me or DW if we run into difficulties, of any sort - health, finances, etc.? Exactly zero. So what obligation do we have to fulfill their societal expectations? Exactly zero. Our bucket list, if any, is exactly that - ours.
Second reason to care what someone else thinks is if you need to, in order to obtain the resources to survive. But that’s not really caring what they think, just having to factor it in. E.g., working at megacorp, where you have to mentally model the thought processes of everyone else, and then decide how best to communicate, in order to obtain the results you need. But when you reach financial independence, that need to care what they think... vanishes.
Third reason to care what someone else thinks is if you care about them and respect them personally. It’s important to treat everyone with respect, but the number of people with whom there’s a deeper affinity is a lot smaller than “society at large.”
At Thanksgiving, my 35 year old nephew told me how I was wasting my precious time in retirement.
What does a 35 year old know about retirement anyways?
Yeah, “bucket list” seems to be viewed often as filled with “must-do’s” as opposed to “Hmmm, these might be fun.”
I used to work away at my job jar. Now I just do what I want and outsource the rest after 15 years.Clearly written by someone who's never been married.
I'm in the "have a bucket list and enjoy plugging away at it" camp of early retirees but that's me - as others have said, retirement is about choosing how you want to spend your time.
It was on my list until the doc said not to attempt it because of COPD. That ship has sailed.* - No offense to Machu Picchu visitors. Really hope you enjoyed it. This just seems to be the #1 travel bucket item on many of my acquaintances lists. It is not mine.
[emoji1] [emoji1] [emoji1]I thought that you were getting married.