Sojourner
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I'm worried that my retirement will become, "... while you're home today, it's important that we get all the CDs arranged alphabetically ... and the dog kibble color-coded ... and the cobwebs off the shed .... it'll only take half-an-hour or so."
Not trying to wax philosophical here, but it strikes me that these sorts of things are not, in fact, important. They are trivial. Why should you have to sacrifice your personal time on stuff that's objectively irrelevant to anyone's actual well being? As others have suggested, you should politely and casually deflect your DH's insistence that these things need to get done, and then go do stuff that actually improves and enhances your life and that you find fulfilling. As always, in any relationship, there should be some level of compromise, but I'd say leave 90% of those meaningless, OCD, busy-work chores to your DH and focus on things that actually matter.