A young woman friend of mine lived in an upper midwest state with a very good public university system, including the flagship school which was almost right in her neighborhood. But after high school she decided to make a lateral move to an adjoining state and attend their flagship school, also a highly regarded state school. She funded this mostly through loans, rather than on the backs of her parents. Later she borrowed to get a mid-tier private MBA, which her husband would not pay for- so although he handled her living expenses, she had to borrow the full tuition amount.
Now she is divorced, working at 2 very so-so jobs, and making loan payments that exceed her studio apartment rent as a budget expense. She is really strapped.
I think we often do not consider what a snow job school guidance counselors and the whole academic system puts on students. They rarely have time to step back and consider whether any of this really makes any sense. Many people are also not yet aware that the major state universities are now very competitive in admissions. In any state with a large East Asian population, our sons and daughters are going to be studying all night just to keep in the middle of the curve. Anyone been on the Berkeley campus in the last 10 years?
Or walked down University Avenue in Seattle?
To get an education equal to, let alone better than, this type of environment is going to take the top Ivies or Stanford, or a few other very elite schools.
Parents need more authority over their kids, but this isn't going to happen in modern media-driven America.
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This post struck a chord.
The community college dialog is a good one
The bigger question should be occupation...
If interested in Business (for example), working during college, gaining experience in a field of interest would be of decent importance. Community colleges would improve the ROI by adding income to the student, lowering costs and really not delaying any career path.
On another side, if being a doctor or lawyer is of interest, getting into a good 4 year school which prepares students for the complexities of applying to law or med school is more important (IMO) than saving a few dollars at a community college which meets the credit requirement, but might give less guidance to the student.
The most important part of college is graduating with a piece of paper and making friends which last a lifetime. If a person does not value one or the other, community colleges will fit that bill.
The contacts I made in college 15-20 years ago are still really important to me today, and I am glad I went to a college which gets 99% of their graduates employment in industry after 5 years. This network is quite valueable when looking for specific contacts which do specific things.
I have had similar college conversations with numerous adults, and vocational occupations (plumbers, electricians etc...) are in demand, but few students are educated by their counselors as to making those careers a viable option.
The most important thing is to make sure your kids can handle working, and know what background to get for a specific occupation.