Yeah, it's always best to measure yourself against yourself -- your past self, that is -- not against other people. "Run your own race," as they say. As long as I feel like I'm doing better than I was a few years ago or a decade ago, I'm okay. Sometimes, if I want to boost my spirits, I'll reflect on what life was like for me when I was a teenager or early 20's (hint: miserable, depressed, lost). I've had a lot of ups and downs, but as long as my life is on an upward trajectory overall, I can feel okay.
Please keep that under your hat. Someone at the Cincinnati IRS office may google that up and be off to the races with their tax checking software. Please continue to use struggling instead of r**h.
And the fact remains that we do have the option of not having to work. How many will have to work until they physically cannot work any longer? I think it a safe bet that those outnumber those who have the option of retiring at any standard of living.
You know, I thought I wanted a Mercedes until I could finally afford one. Somehow for me, that dream worked out better as a daydream than as a reality. When I finally could afford a Mercedes, I decided that I didn't actually want one. All I wanted was the dream, I guess. I prefer the Venza that I bought instead. A little luxury, but with lots of room for my stuff when heading out of town on hurricane evacuations.That said, I will never own a Rolls, or probably even a Benz. And I don't care because that just doesn't matter. To me. If it does, then keep on working.
Yeah, it's always best to measure yourself against yourself -- your past self, that is -- not against other people. "Run your own race," as they say. As long as I feel like I'm doing better than I was a few years ago or a decade ago, I'm okay. Sometimes, if I want to boost my spirits, I'll reflect on what life was like for me when I was a teenager or early 20's (hint: miserable, depressed, lost). I've had a lot of ups and downs, but as long as my life is on an upward trajectory overall, I can feel okay.
A little luxury, but with lots of room for my stuff when heading out of town on hurricane evacuations.
Forget South America - right across the border, here in North America. My family has been involved in house-building weekends down in Tijuana and Ensenada. The family, at the end of the weekend, has a 2 room house - one is the bedroom, one is the other room., a kitchen sink, a water tank (water is delivered by truck in these neighborhoods). Water is collected after dishes etc, in buckets and used to water the yard. No indoor plumbing other than a connection from the water tank to the sink. (No toilet, etc.) It has a light fixture in either room - so there is electricity. And this is a BIG improvement over what they have at the beginning of the weekend.There will always be those who have "more" than you do and there will always be those who have less. I was reminded just yesterday during a conversation with a pilot friend who has done a lot of charter flying and he spoke of being amazed at the level of poverty in south american countries.
Again I was reminded that a very large percentage of the world's population would be thrilled to have the storage shed in our back yard as a home.
A friend of my in architecture says that no matter how big someone's house is, they generally only live in 2500 square ft of it.
I used to pat myself on the back for putting 15%+ away each year, but on this site it seems like most sock away 25% +.....there is just no way to do that on just over $100,000 a year, with a wife that likes horses, among other things. I
Thanks for expressing what I’ve sometimes felt since discovering this site a few weeks ago. I have found it very difficult not to engage in comparisons, whether with the fancy cars that pass me on the highway, the net worth statistics in the Survey of Consumer Finances, or with other individuals on sites like this one. When I find myself succumbing to comparisons, I try to challenge myself to press harder with my own financial goals. It’s difficult however, with not wanting to change some of the choices I’ve made, like paying for an expensive apartment so I can walk to work instead of take the bus. And having gotten married 1 ½ years ago, it’s no longer just me that’s making the decisions. What I like about this forum is the support that I see for the other posters and the different things that I have learned just by hanging around.
I can completely relate to the OP. I am hoping (perhaps naively) that once we reach a certain point we will no longer feel so far behind our personal goals (we have about 5.6 times yearly expenses saved at 32 and 30). I do really enjoy hearing everyone's stories on here, but there is definitely a tug-of-war of emotions going on when I spend time on the forum between motivation and depression. Maybe at 9 times or 10 times yearly expenses I will be able to feel like I have made real progress. My interest in FI has always been about not having the pressure to work or the worry of losing my job. It would be nice to stop stressing so much…
If one is feeling poor, here's a calculator to make you feel better. It calculates your relative income/wealth compared to the rest of the world:
Global Rich List
Feel better now?
Wow - that was eye opening, and really puts things in perspective.
If one is feeling poor, here's a calculator to make you feel better. It calculates your relative income/wealth compared to the rest of the world:
Global Rich List
Feel better now?
It does, doesn't it? DW and I often "take stock" and realize how fortunate we are. Private jets and the like are not in our future but we don't foresee having to forage for food either. And we're living better and have more options than our respective parents did.
We're semi-seriously discussing where to take a trip to within the next several months, what we'd like to see, etc. Growing up we didn't even think of doing that - we didn't have the money to even consider it.
So by our lights, we're wealthy.
I was awakened this morning by the sound of a transformer exploding down the road, and realized that I might have to do without electricity for a good part of the day on this holiday weekend. For a split second I felt sorry for myself - heaven forbid I might have to do without my electronic gadgets for even a moment. (No ER.org!)
If one is feeling poor, here's a calculator to make you feel better. It calculates your relative income/wealth compared to the rest of the world:
Global Rich List
Feel better now?