Is there a DNR equivalent to those life alert bracelets which communicate conditions of concern to first responders? That way if they find you've coded they wouldn't have to look far to locate your intentions.
A few years ago, I talked with our then-Fire Rescue Chief about the use of a DNR for first responders. I had talked with him for years before the start of city meetings, so he knew me, and I had helped him/me/us in convincing city elected officials on the need to finance and acquire some new expensive equipment, so there was no reason for him not to be truthful with me.
Findings... A DNR is useless to first responders. They will neither look for it nor use it if one was presented. He said all Fire Rescue departments around here are the same. Their task is to treat and transport the patient/victim to the appropriate next level of care ASAP. Then their job is done. There is no holding back on any available treatment. They need to be able to show that they did everything within their power and resources at the time. This was a surprise to me.
He also mentioned that our state does have a program where one can wear a bracelet, necklace whatever, but said that is for a different situation. He gave me the name then and said it was on one of the state's websites. I looked it up then, it requires registration, tough hoops to jump through, you have to have at least two physicians certify that you are in the last 6 months of a terminal illness.
Our F-R Chief said it was created for out of hospital transport of hospice or hospice-like patients. So it was of no use to me, what I was looking for now.
You may want to find out via F-R in your area what their approach is to DNRs. A VFD Chief told me that lawsuit avoidance is paramount for them, do everything by the "keep'em alive no matter what" rule, till the patient/victim is handed off, then not their problem anymore.
I don't like it, but I understand it. But no solution presents itself to me, other than what I mentioned posts above in this thread, and that is only with someone and someplace that it occurs that it could work out.
EDIT - Teacher Terry, thank you for posting this topic. It is one I wanted to broach for years here, but didn't know how I could phrase it. Now that you broke the ice, it's easier. Thanks Again!