SoonToRetire said:
Nord, I suspect USAFA guys might take exception to your comments about USNA campus life, at least right off campus.
For me the challenge was getting off campus (let alone being
permitted to get off campus). It was nice to see a college where there was actually some on-campus activity at night (other than studying) and on weekends (other than sports & marching). I spent most of my USNA time trying to get as far away from there as possible, so it was a big surprise to see a campus where you'd actually want to stick around after classes finished for the day.
I've visited USAFA and IMHO those guys are almost as nuts as their VMI/Citadel brethren. Doing it at altidude makes it even harder! But we'll probably visit that place this summer or in the next couple years so that our kid can make fun of it get a rational basis for comparison to the other military academies.
BTW Annapolis may be right outside the gates of USNA, but like all resort areas it caters heavily to visitors (with visitor pricing) and not so much to students. Even in 1978-82 it was tough to find an affordable place for a meal and an evening of drinking socializing... other than Weems Creek Tavern!
SoonToRetire said:
Glad the DARE program had such an effect on your daughter. I don't know what the scene is today but I bet pot is on most campuses. It's more important that she has the right attitude, since she might not be able to avoid running across it. My own daughter also ran across a lot of drug use in school but, thankfully, she always told me what was happening and aso avoided it like the plague.
I'm a bit more skeptical of DARE's long-term efficacy. A couple years back there was a study claiming that DARE graduates were
more likely to experiment with alcohol & marijuana in high school. I can remember sitting in a golf-course clubhouse with my first draft been (at the age of 15) and thinking "Yeah, I'm not gonna let this control my life".
Right now her anti-drug knowledge consists of a bunch of "facts" intended to scare the hell out of fifth-graders. However she has zero comprehension of the mechanics of addiction and the social networks that can lead to it. While this may work out OK in the classroom in broad daylight, I suspect it's not so good on Saturday night in a dark dorm room (but I have only my own experience to refer to!). "Just say no" ain't gonna cut it. I'd rather she have a more tolerant attitude like "Thanks, dude, but I'm trying to cut back for basketball season."
I'd like her to have a more balanced perspective-- the medical use of marijuana, why the brain responds so enthusiastically to both heroin & cocaine, and why she's especially susceptible to alcohol abuse. Right now she lacks a context. It's hard to explain the strong attraction of intoxication and the concept of the slippery slope to somone whose worst vice is eating too many cookies or working out too hard. Luckily our local classic rock radio station (especially their ads for "Hawaii's Natural High" store) provides plenty of material for a discussion-starter.
I'm not gonna host a beer blast for her and her friends. That was tried at my house when I was 14 and let's just say it didn't work out the way my folks intended it to.
Or maybe she really should just join the military. But it'll leave her unprepared for the cognitive dissonance of attending the military's drug-detection training or having her Sailor of the Year pop positive on urinalysis for marijuana.