itsmyparty
Recycles dryer sheets
- Joined
- Mar 8, 2008
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Have you ever struggled with designating beneficiaries when you have no children? Have for many years lived in a separate country than my siblings. My dh and I have no children and are updating our trusts. There is a possibility there could be a fairly substantial sum in my iras to distribute when the time comes and aside from some charities I am thinking of my nieces and nephews. Unfortunately I do not know them very well and as is natural have more interest in them than they in me. Just recently had a trip to a city back to my home country and arranged to stay extra time to see my brother and adult son..wanted to get to know him a bit. Through a misunderstanding wires got crossed and the meeting time at our hotel was wrong and we missed them and a text message was left that implied that it was all our fault and they had texted several times to confirm and that my brother had driven in 50 miles for the get-together (we did not even know where specifically either lives..never give us an address, but do know where my nephew works). Anyway....we left phone and text messages asking if next day, our last, could work..,and were briefly informed that their work schedule wouldnt permit it..not for before, after work, etc. as we offered. At airport, I did write a text back saying sorry that the confusion caused our not getting together at all, even phone call..all we got was voicemail.. especially as we may not have a chance to get together again. I did wait to reply at my Dh's suggestion so i didnt say anything I would regret later...as I felt a bit sad and even a little angry. Have never heard back anything. I am now having a hard time now getting down to designating these beneficiaries equally...wondered if anyone else has struggled with a similar situation.