Wow! Thank you all for your great suggestions!! There are several that I can implement right away, and some others that may take a while but could be eventually.
I haven't watched the shows about hoarders, but probably should! When I was a realtor, I've seen houses by real hoarders, so I know I haven't reached the height of hoardy-ness so to speak. My living room and bedrooms are more or less normal-looking. It's the basement/garage that are the victims. In fact, my living room is usually so neat that a few of my friends were shocked to see my garage full of things. I get very embarrassed when my friends have to enter the garage for any reason.
My grandmother was a hoarder, my dad is a hoarder, and I have hoarding tendencies. Our family's hoarding is not the "compulsive" kind, it's in response to perceived shortages of specific goods. My grandmother used to stock up on all the things that were rationed or difficult to come by during WWII. She had an entire room in her house dedicated to food storage.
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I think FD and I have had similar experiences. My grandma also had a bedroom completely devoted to food storage. It was usually so full of things that you couldn't walk in it. Some food had been there so long there was often moths flying around in that room. I am not blaming my family -- it's just how I was brought up. It could be either nature or nurture. Growing up, clutter was also a major source of friction between my parents, so it's really hard for me to view de-cluttering as an enjoyable activity. I think subconsciously I avoid it because of all the bad memories associated with it. I honestly think my dad is not retired yet because he can't stand all the clutter in their house...but that's another story.
(So yeah, maybe I should see some kind of therapist. There are more skeletons in the closet.)
Thanks for the suggestion about selling things on eBay or Craigslist. I have yet to try it, but I imagine if I successfully sell one or two things, it would get easier.
Scanning things into electronic files is another thing I can get going now! I can start with statements and tax returns. Great idea.
The Peter Walsh method is also excellent. I don't cook that much and don't use even half of my kitchen utensils.
ERD50 and Fuego, I can definitely use your lists/matrix to start.
Harley, I think if I throw away DH's D&D stuff and Star Wars figures, I will be in a permanent doghouse...
Easysurfer, I was just thinking the U.S. economy would totally stall without Goodwill and Salvation Army. People would be too guilty to throw away things are still usable, then they won't buy things, and then businesses will go downhill and factories (in China?) will close.
W2R, I use ALL of the excuses you listed. How did you know that
The good news is that we have finally agreed that we can throw away or donate all VHS tapes! We haven't had a working VCR in 11 years, and we survived. I guess it means we can actually live without VHS tapes.
Baby steps, baby steps.
My next targets are old printers and phones. We also haven't had a land line in 6 years, so maybe it's time to get rid of land line phones?
For others I haven't mentioned by name, thank you for your suggestions! I appreciate all of your good ideas. They give me a lot to think about.
Have a very happy Thanksgiving!!