A little Googling gave some interesting results.
There are roughly 100 to 200 billion (100,000,000,000 to 200,000,000,000) galaxies in the VISIBLE universe (where it stops is debatable). We know there is ONE inhabited planet in our galaxy. With that ratio, there are a LOT of them.
There are several estimates for the Milky Way. One is 50 million habitable planets . How many have a) life, b) intelligent life? Good question. If only 1/1 million (my WAG), that is 50. The Milky Way is about 100,000 light years in diameter. The average distance to such a planet would be about 2,000 light years. This is starting to look like we might be able to verify the existence of any neighbors!
98% of all the G2 stars in the universe are older than our sun. Our youthful sun and solar system are the beneficiaries of increasing amounts of elements formed by fusion and fission that are not prevalent in older stars. Let's say that is a requirement for life and later, intelligent life. By orders of magnitude, that brings us back to about 1 of us in a galaxy at this time.
How about a window in time? The universe is about 13.7 billion years old. The Milky Way is about 10 to 13.6 billion years old. The solar system and the Earth are about 4.5 billion years old. Life is about 3.5 billion years old. Man of one sort or another is 2.4 to 7 million years old. Homo Sapiens seems to be about 0.16 to 0.4 million years old. Homo Sapiens went through a genetic bottleneck about 70,000 years ago that left only about 2,000 to 10,000 individuals alive.
The last ice age ended about 11,500 years ago and ever since we have been on a real tear! Culture is known to be at least 7,000 years old. Since the last ice age we have taken over the planet from pole to pole. Our population really took off about 1000 BC and then again in about 1940. The Industrial Revolution started in 1790, only 224 years ago. This is the blink of an eye. The way we are going, I don't think the planet will be able to support the population in a couple of hundred years and I would not bet on the survival of the human race for more than another 1,000 years. Based on these wild conjectures, I figure there is roughly a 1,000 year window in time in the life of a solar system when a sufficiently advanced technological society can send or detect communications from Outside. So...maybe, maybe not.
How about leaving our/their planet? The universe beyond the Earth's magnetosphere is pretty hostile to organic life, and the higher the form, the more delicate it is. As it is, transcontinental airline pilots get a hell of a lot more exposure to cosmic rays than bus drivers and astronauts have commonly experienced flashes in their eyes caused by Cherenkov radiation. Mutating like the Fantastic Four in a cosmic ray storm IS fantastic. On long trips, astronauts may be killed outright or be young victims of cancer. So, I doubt that us or them will be doing much interstellar travel in our corporeal forms. Don't bet on FTL travel, either.
Just my random thoughts and opinions.
Gypsy