I have discovered that there are a lot of people who live very nice retirement lifestyles with little money and no stress about money . I was out with a friend on Monday . This friend travels a lot , routinely dines out , just remodeled her kitchen , has a pool guy & a cleaning lady . So when I mentioned I recently lost $100,000 in the market she remarked I wish I had a $100,000 to lose . I was shocked but it made me reevaluate . I do not have a cleaning lady or a pool guy & my kitchen could use an update so who is the smart one ? Someone who lives a devil may care life or someone who lives a LBYM life so they will not end up a bag lady ?