I am in the middle of a grey divorce. I have been married for almost 31 years. My husband and I are both lawyers. He met me five weeks before I started law school. He had just completed his Masters in Public Administration but couldn't find a job. He then decided to take the LSAT after I started and ended up at my law school one year later. Upon graduation, I was debt free because I put myself through school while working and was immediately hired by employer, a major oil company's Legal Department . My husband graduated and took a position with a law firm after taking out student loans for undergraduate, graduate and law school, representing 9 years of large student loans. We got engaged a month after his graduation and married 4 months later. We were able to purchase our home 15 months after the wedding because I had been working full time and had saved up enough for a down payment. We have raised two beautiful daughters in our starter home, which we later remodeled. My youngest daughter has completed her Masters, is employed and has her own apartment . My oldest daughter has completed her first year of law school and will soon be launched. I am 61 and have been working full time since my college graduation in June 1977. My husband and I agreed 2 years ago that I would retire on July 7, 2017. I have been an extreme commuter for almost 2 decades, logging 3 hour daily commutes .My current employer, an automotive company, provides a rare pension and I also have the oil company pension. My husband has a 5 minute commute. Seven months to the day of my proposed retirement date, he served me with divorce papers by mail. No advance warning. No discussion. He rebuffed my pleas to attend counseling. Given the length of our marriage, the divorce process has been slow. However, it didn't take him much time to find a new girlfriend 15 years younger than me, dye his hair and have lasik eye surgery so he no longer wears glasses. Major mid life crisis. I don't wish this experience on anyone.