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Just say you retired early and let them feel envy. 58 is not an unreasonably young age to be retired.
lol, oh God I hope not. My best friend married my brother. my family has a "no-backsies" policy so we remind her she's stuck with him.
My other GF is getting divorced (3X). Her husband is a bum, actual he was a lawyer but then quit to become.....wait for it...... a lumberjack. problem îs we live in Philadelphia. because Timber is always the first thing one thinks of hen you think Philly.
I've looked for a woman as you've described also with no luck. The one GF that I had that could travel didn't want to, or it needed to be somewhere exactly like home. I've met a couple of others that couldn't afford travel or any time away from a job. I've resigned myself to the knowledge that there are interesting women everywhere I go. I'm sure not going to wait around hoping for a travel companion to show up.
Honestly other than here I know no one under 62 that retired. The coworkers that were RIF ed had to find other work or were already well over 60.
They discovered the internet, no one goes out anymore. If your a widow forgetabout it, your friends are scared you will steal their husbands.
I am about your age (though taken!) so maybe my thoughts have value. First of all, fifty-eight is not that young - many people in my line of work (Federal govt) retire at 55, and not all take second jobs. They tend to be frugal people who have saved, invested, and have nice 401Ks.
Even if you were younger, I wouldn't assume you are any kind of bum, if you live in a nice place and seem not to be in need. I would consider how you support yourself to be entirely your business...it's not like we're getting married. I would, of course, search your name to see if anything evil pops up (would also help to reveal if you have given me a fake name). I'd expect you to search my name, too.
That said, I would be interested in how you occupy your time....are you writing a book? Going on a 2-month trip? Tending a conservatory of gorgeous plants? (all of which would be OK by me).
Finally, I would wait to see how you treat me and other people. That matters more than anything else.
Good luck!
Amethyst
OK new ad, Successful retiree in search of a companion.Me 58 male. You 48-60 non smoker including meth and weed. I want a LOW drama companion, so no married or separated ladies. Social drinker OK, tea totaler even better, you can be the designated driver for us. Pets and children OK, must be able to take a few long vacations per year so we may explore the world together. Recent full length picture a must.
If I should become single again, I hope I am no longer interested in sex. It appears that the world has changed in what are to me unattractive directions.
People talk about companionship. Unclear to me what is being sought here. Some meetups are fine if all one needs is coffee and some chit-chat.
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Age is not the major factor but it can be an issue, more of a generational gap. lol I went out with one gentlemen who told me this was the first time he went out with a "colored" girl. Ok I understand that you might not know who Jay-Z and Beyonce are but come on dude, we graduated from "Colored" like 40 years ago.
Silent Generation
Then there aren't "plenty." If there were plenty they'd be readily available
I don't think I'm being ageist when I set the limits, but as an experiment I removed the filter. I believe the site is only showing me matches that have my age in their acceptable range. Six local under 43 show up some with multiple children, all looking for marriage soon and most hoping for more children. Since I'm not looking to raise more kids and right now am looking for dating not marriage it's a moot point.
I don't criticize anyone's relationships, not my business. I'd date a much younger woman but doubt I would find one looking for the same thing with common interests and tastes. I don't want to date a much older woman for the same reasons, though none showed up in the search. The last time I used this site no women more than ten years younger ever responded to a message even though my age was in their match range.
M a large amount of women miss out by filtering out guys under 6 foot.
If I was to start dating again, I would cast a net far and wide. It is ultimately a numbers game. If you think you will get lucky finding a suitable partner in one date or two, you probably buy lottery tickets every week too.
Use online services, meetup.com groups, local dating groups. Look for people your age, and other ages. Create different profiles for your different interests. It makes no sense to advertise for a suitable partner to grow old with in one paragraph, and also look for a wild partner in the next. The more restrictions you place on the partner, the more trouble you will have. Look for travel partners, dance partners, gold digger partners, but not in the same profile. And know the partner's motivation, and adjust for it.
George Soros can do it, so can you. I am sure women that are interested in him are going for his intellectual capability and looks. The same with Keith Richards and Mick Jagger.
Then, lose some weight, get a vision of what you want to look like, and get out there.
A long time ago, I used those dating sites. I noticed for many that men had to pay $$ to communicate but the women got it free. So it's easy to consider that many of the women on the site may be on many sites, and have no $$ incentive to make a real effort vs simply browse for amusement.
There were also at various times allegations of the company using fake women to continually entice the men to re-enlist in the site.
Honestly I think you are better off without them, I don't even know why it would be important. I'm 5 feet 7.5" and I think a man my height can be very attractive. It's not like we're going to line up for school photos.
I encountered this imbalance by gender a lot over the years. Many of these dating websites and other equivalent systems charged the men while the women paid nothing as an inducement to get more women to participate and try to even out the gender imbalance.
Other systems which treated both genders equally this way had other ways to favor the women. In my local newspaper's personal ad listings, they often ran ads from female advertisers for several weeks while the male advertisers had ads which ran one week. When I asked about that, I was told that the male advertisers generated very little money (responders had to pay through a per-minute phone system) while the female advertisers generated most of it.
Back in the late 1980s when I began using these personal ad systems, ones which required actual letters (gasp!) by the responders which got forwarded to the advertisers, I found out (not to any huge surprise) that the women got dozens and dozens of letters while the men got very few, sometimes none at all. Even a well written letter by a male responder often got lost in the many, many letters the woman received. Furthermore, the few women who replied to male advertisers almost always got calls back from their letters. One woman told me that she was genuinely stunned that male responders rarely got calls back. There are two vastly different worlds out there.
I remember a young kid at a weekend party in Colombia. He danced with all the women, his head basically nestled on their boobs and a beatific smile on his face. I thought to myself, wish I had grown up here. Then much later here in America I danced with a good looking woman over 6 feet tall, and who loved heels and hot clothes. There I was, experiencing at 60 something similar to what that Lucky Colombiano was getting at 12.Honestly I think you are better off without them, I don't even know why it would be important. I'm 5 feet 7.5" and I think a man my height can be very attractive. It's not like we're going to line up for school photos.
In the early 80's I had a male acquaintance who paid some ungodly fee (I think it was $100 per match, which was a lot back then) for computer dating matches, and related his "adventures" to me. One thing I learned was that women under age 30 were only charged a fraction of what men were charged. Naturally - everyone wants them, so why would they even sign up?
I remember a young kid at a weekend party in Colombia. He danced with all the women, his head basically nestled on their boobs and a beatific smile on his face. I thought to myself, wish I had grown up here. Then much later here in America I danced with a good looking woman over 6 feet tall, and who loved heels and hot clothes. There I was, experiencing at 60 something similar to what that Lucky Colombiano was getting at 12.
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That sounds like something an unemployed bum would say to justify being unemployed. Just sayin.
Wow, I believe you, but thats a staggering high number. If that was a multiple choice test answer I would have never picked that.I have an acquaintance who does programming for dating sites.
A few years ago, he had just returned from a January conference in Florida for those who run online dating sites (big bucks in this industry, btw. I don't recall the exact $ number).
I do recall him telling me that 40% of the men on the online dating sites are married . Such a small percentage (1-2%) of the women in online dating are married, that they don't even keep tabs on that number.
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