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wanaberetiree

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I removed basal cell carcinoma in two places recently and feel generally getting old (almost 60) and sad :(

I understand that there might be much worse outcomes in life, and yet still feel blue ...

I find this forum gives my more positive look at life in times of not-so-good-news, and looking for shared experiences and maybe suggestions.
 
I had basal cell carcinoma removed in 2017. I took the "glass half full" approach...of all of the possible cancers to get, basal cell carcinoma like mine, with a cure rate greater than 99%, was probably the best cancer to get if one is going to get cancer. I felt like a dodged a bullet.


Lumpy
 
My Mom had a pretty deep one of those removed from her face in 2003. She had to have plastic surgery where they took some skin from behind her ear to graft over the removal (top of the nose).

This was in late October. By Christmas you could barely tell she'd had anything done. She's over 70 now, no other issues. If you're at all a glass-half-full person look at this as a a good catch!
 
"Cancer" is never an uplifting term.
But, some are "better" than others.
In 2013 I heard colon cancer. Surgery and chemo cured me.
My suggestion is to talk about it. Don't hide it inside you.
 
My mom had these for years (50+)...and it didn't affect her life or lifespan, in the end. Just had to cover up. But maybe it's a wake-up call? Do what you want to do now, don't wait around until it's too late!

People age, and have health problems. Many here are able to move past very serious health problems, including heart attacks, etc., and go on to live full, fulfilling lives, sometimes for decades! Go get' em!
 
Bill, my mom and my grandfather was like your mom. They both lived long lives.
 
I had basal cell almost 30 years ago, the doc took out what seemed at the time to be a pretty good-sized chunk of my ear. A year later anyone who didn't know about it would be hard pressed to see the scar.

The ones that show are from the two melanomas from three and four years ago. And again, one has to look to see them.

Lesson learned - pay attention, see a dermatologist for anything out of the ordinary or even mildly questionable, and life goes on. At least so far.
 
In the past year I have had 1 basal cell removed (quite large, the size of a quarter), 1 melanoma (quite small, no additional treatment required), and 2 Squamous cells. So I feel your concern about getting old and falling apart. Oh, and I also had a hip replacement the year before.

Everything I have read and been told by the doctors says the basal cell is the least serious skin cancer, with no identified effect on life expectancy. Same for squamous cell. My melanoma was small, so I have greater than 95% chance of 5 year survival (which I think for age 64 is pretty much normal). I DO need to go in for full body checks every 3 months, at least for a while (which is why they caught the squamous cell).

I choose to simply stay positive, and not dwell on, or even think about, the negative possibilities.
 
Sixty seems young, but heredity probably has something to do with that.

At least it is not melanoma!

I shudder to think where some of the women I grew up with are having skin cancers removed from...the way they used to display their bits and pieces, "laying out" all summer in string bikinis. Sunscreen was available, but it was white, looked strange, and I don't think many girls used it.
 
My mom had basal cell on her nose, extending out onto the cheek close to her eye. She let it go too long and they had to remove quite a lot to get it all. I got to watch the surgery (called MOHS) and it was really fascinating.

After, she had a number of procedures to repair it all (sounds similar to what Aerides' mom went through). During that process I saw what I still think must be the ultimate in specialization. One of her plastic surgeons ONLY worked on lower eyelids! :facepalm:

But she put up with it all and had a full recovery. She was in her mid-80s then, and made it all the way to 96 with no further trouble in that area, basically dying of old age.
 
I removed basal cell carcinoma in two places recently and feel generally getting old (almost 60) and sad :(

I understand that there might be much worse outcomes in life, and yet still feel blue ...

I find this forum gives my more positive look at life in times of not-so-good-news, and looking for shared experiences and maybe suggestions.

I'm not sure if it would make you feel better, but...

My dad is in the process of dying from stomach cancer.

I had lymphoma two years ago. Went through treatments. No detectable cancer this year.

I am amazed at the treatments available for cancer these days. It's obviously not curable for everyone. But for many, there are simple and very effective treatments, particularly if it is detected early. Try to be happy that you live in such amazing times.
 
"Cancer" is never an uplifting term.
But, some are "better" than others.
In 2013 I heard colon cancer. Surgery and chemo cured me.
My suggestion is to talk about it. Don't hide it inside you.

I have a buddy who was diagnosed with colon cancer 15 years ago. Same as you, surgery and Chemo/Radiation cured him. Cancer free now at 66. His colon still "acts up" on him occasionally, but he considers it a small price to pay.

FWIW, after his diagnosis, but before his treatment, we took a long ride out in the country on his 4-wheeler. Talking about it helped him deal with it, and helped me understand it.

We have a lot of discussions here about the high price of HI and medical costs, but we are also blessed to have cures to diseases that would have been a death sentence only 50 years ago.
 
No topic is immune to a humorous perspective

Cancer is a scary word, no doubt about it. It conjures images of suffering and despair like few others. I liken dying of a stroke or heart attack to dying in an action movie; intense but soon over. But dying of cancer is more like dying in a horror movie, eaten alive but slowly. -Shudder-

Any type of cancer is still cancer, and is not to be ignored. Still, basal cell skin cancer is highly treatable so I expect you'll be posting here for many more years. I've had both basal and squamous removed via MOHS surgery. Each time, when the surgeon was done cutting, I looked in a mirror, a la Jack Nicholson as The Joker. When I saw the massive crater in my face I thought "Wow, I've got a future career as a carnival freak show exhibit!" The hole was half the size of my palm. Pretty disturbing.

But she stitched it up beautifully and today there's a scar so minor you'd never see it unless you knew it was there and had a magnifying glass.

Like most guys, I have an unfortunately cavalier attitude toward my own health in many ways: eat too much, drink too much, exercise too little. However, my experience has sensitized me to cancers in general. I get annual skin exams, 5 year colonoscopies, etc., which I probably would not have bothered with had the Big C not hit so close to home.

Anyway, all's well that ends well. I didn't endure a "horror movie death". I didn't even suffer permanent disfigurement, so if my FIRE plan should fail then I'm outta luck trying to snag that circus sideshow job! :LOL:

P.S. There are slow-growing cancers, notably some forms of prostate cancer, where "watchful waiting" is the recommended course. I don't consider that "ignoring" it, since the key word is "watchful".
 
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OP,
I am also almost 60 y.o.
I had Melanoma caught in the early stages at age 40 and am still outside in the FLA sun just about every day (with normal spray protection only).
Are you retired yet?
If so, look at all the wonderful stuff about being retired.
 
I got lots of emails in short time, what a forum !

And yes all you are very helpful, thank you !
 
While we are on this topic, I wonder if anybody knows any modern ways to scan skin for problems and maybe do early diagnosis?

Not that I’m unhappy with my dermatologist, just wanted to be more proactive
 
I shudder to think where some of the women I grew up with are having skin cancers removed from...the way they used to display their bits and pieces, "laying out" all summer in string bikinis. Sunscreen was available, but it was white, looked strange, and I don't think many girls used it.

And they still do it. The pool near my house is so close that I walk by it at least once a day. There are women in their 40's and older sitting in beach recliners around the pool daily in the afternoon. Any time now I expect to see one of them holding a silver reflector around her face. Skin cancer, come and get me!
 
How timely, I am dealing with this right now. Had a biopsy on my nose on Monday and was diagnosed with Superficial Basal Cell. Now I am going down the Goggle rabbit hole looking at the scary Mohs surgery/reconstruction photos of the nose. I had Mohs 12 years ago on another area of my nose which wasn't too bad. I fear this one is going to be worse as this has been there 3 years and as I have made many trips to the dermatologist to have it checked out, was repeatedly told it was nothing until I insisted on the biopsy. They are giving me the option of using a cream (which has some scary side effects) or doing the surgery.

I am 67 and although I have protected myself from the sun for the last 40 years I did have some blistering burns in my teens. The price we pay for foolish behavior.

Since my last basal cell 12 years ago I have been diligent about getting my total body skin check every year. I am a bit aggravated the dr. didn't biopsy this earlier. Might be time to find a new dermatologist.
 
I fear this one is going to be worse as this has been there 3 years and as I have made many trips to the dermatologist to have it checked out, was repeatedly told it was nothing until I insisted on the biopsy.

This is exactly what I am trying to understand - what is the best way to avoid such mistakes? Go and see a different dermatologist ? What are modern methods to scan for such issues ? Etc.
 
Go and see a different dermatologist ?

Yes, this. When it comes to skin stuff, if it's new or growing, act as if it's probably bad. Either a new derma doc, or just insist. Most of them seem more snip-happy than not, and err on the side of caution.

Doc: "eh, it's probably nothing, let's just keep an eye on it"
You: "No, I'd prefer we take a closer look now"
 
Get outside and play!

I am 67 and although I have protected myself from the sun for the last 40 years I did have some blistering burns in my teens. The price we pay for foolish behavior.

In your defense, back in the day the prevailing wisdom was that getting lots of sunshine was healthy, essential for absorption of vitamin D, staved off Seasonal Affective Disorder depression, etc.
 
My dermatologist is snip happy and she has biopsied lots of places on me. That's why I took her word for it when she insisted multiple times she was not concerned about this particular spot. When I went in this week I saw a PA and she said it didn't look like basal cell but offered to do a biopsy, so I did....and it was basal cell.

I am kicking myself I didn't insist on a biopsy sooner. A lesson if you feel something doesn't look right insist on a biopsy!
 
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I have had several basal cell spots removed, and one early stage melanoma. It is concerning to hear that you have skin cancer, but the good thing is regular dermatologist visits will keep you from having bigger problems. I go every 6 months for a dermatologist checkup, usually get a few spots froze, and occasional scrape for analysis. I now try to do a lot better with using sunscreen than I ever did as a kid or younger adult. But I do not limit my outside exposure any, just be more careful with protective measures.
 
Yes, this. When it comes to skin stuff, if it's new or growing, act as if it's probably bad. Either a new derma doc, or just insist. Most of them seem more snip-happy than not, and err on the side of caution.

Doc: "eh, it's probably nothing, let's just keep an eye on it"
You: "No, I'd prefer we take a closer look now"

+1000

My second melanoma was diagnosed when the surgeon who did the surgery for the first one biopsied what turned out to be the second. He later acknowledged that the only reason he did the biopsy was because of my history. Otherwise he wouldn't have bothered, the little mark looked so benign.

Whew, close escape!
 
I have read a few times in recent years about efforts to develop a smartphone app with the intelligence to let you know whether you should see a dermatologist about something seen with your phone camera.

But after extensive testing, the success rate (avoiding false positives and negatives) was not high enough and it always ended up with the strong recommendation to let your dermatologist's experienced eyes make the call.

I practically lived at the beach when I was young, and always got a beautiful tan. "Brown as a berry" as my mother used to say. I have so much sun damage to my arms that it isn't even funny. As a result, I am very religious about my annual dermatologist visits. I'm lucky to have an extremely good one.
 

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