Thought a followup was in order, as the 22nd came and went and I am still there at the job. Been reading the forum pretty consistently and actually did submit my letter last Tuesday for a final day a week from tomorrow. One of the key influencers was the "golden handcuffs" thread, that describes my situation very similarly.
The response from my cohorts at work has been touching, and overwhelmingly positive. There has not been a single negative statement or comment, and I'm glad to have decided to part ways now, before my rotten attitude and "no keah" feelings broke through too much. It feels great to leave on good terms, with supportive folks, and before the meltdown.
Working this year after having retired from the military was invaluable as a learning experience, and even the reaction to my resignation has been surprising, humbling, and an experience that I could not have imagined and would not want to have missed out on.
Looking forward to that first day when the alarm rings, I can wake up, and don't HAVE to go anyplace. Hoo Yah/DeepC