Recent content by Salaryman

Was with BearS. at the time. Saw the world as I know it crumble. Against every instinct, I bought into the market and picked up real estate in the crushed areas. Survived the 'merger' with 80% attrition rate, lived to tell the tale. Between this and the two bombings at the WTC, I've burned...

First punch in the nose stops the bully all the time. For me, when I finally broke something in me changed and all of a sudden I changed to a new person. Bam, no more Mr. nice guy. Salaryman

Maybe Love is the ultimate investment. Past performance is no guarantee of future performance. Sometime you ride a bull market and have dividends or you get hit with a correction and take a haircut.

I believe you are right about taking the chance and about kids. Despite our differences, we are very proud of the wonderful kids that came. If it hadn't been for the kids, I would not have had the fulfilling life that I had. As for losing, I didn't get married thinking it would turn out this...

**** happens, sometimes it doesn't. You can't wall yourself off due to fear.

Dammar, thanks again for good counsel. I too have seen the damage when the lawyers hijack the process.

letj, I'm not gay LOL. 'Gay divorcee' is a quaint term used to describe happy divorced people. Was not being literal.

Dammar iviv et al, you are all right. I did come here for advise and wisdom. Much appreciate the candid feedback. I am exposing myself here in hopes of learning from you all and to gain different perspective. It's quite unsettling and am feeling vulnerable. At end of day, it's able the kids...

Early on. Also she was an illegal. I got her citizenship as well. I thought she would change, I guessed wrong.

She wanted to improve her career prospects and wanted to go to school when the kids were still young. I encouraged her, paid for her tuition and raised the kids during time she went to school and worked nights at the hospital. I had a full time job, and picked up the kids from daycare to care...

SecondCor, Will check this out with atty. I'm in same situation, 15 years in 3 kids looking at asset split and 15 years of payments. Don't really mind the payments, but the assets were all created by me which kinda stings. But that's the price of freedom, and if I can do it the first time I can...

All the money went to the lawyers.>:(

I know what you mean. I've busted my butt at work to a point where they will flex and allow me to work remotely. Current plan is to work in Ny a week in a month so I'm near kids 2 wkends and 1 week in between. If this doesn't work I'm planning on going back to management consulting so that I can...

Excellent idea. I'll keep this in my back pocket for later. Not that I'm counting on it, my family is comfortable which may mean that I may receive assets when my parents pass on. Whether I buy the annuity for her or pay her from the rental income stream, this will get me out from the financial...

Very valid point. Ex is a Tiger mom and while I'm more easy going, I do enforce fairness. So far, discipline has not been a point of contention between us or kids. Will try to keep it that way, but I don't foresee this as something that I will let happen. That said, when the kids reach their...