We don't discuss our finances with anyone since the first time we realized we made more than DW's parents. That was a long time ago.
We do have close friends we are going to Hawaii with that we discuss everything with, however. Part of what makes it easy to do so is they make significantly more than us (both doctors). They are getting pretty comfortable discussing it with us as they see we aren't going to be resentful of what they have earned. They live below their means (which means their house would be an extreme stretch for us to afford) and after my prompting, put all their retirement funds into Vanguard Target Retirement, and they max everything. So we count ourselves extremely lucky to have friends we can have these kinds of conversations with.
It's all relative. He bought a brand new Lexus IS350 and got teased by his partners for going cheap, as they all drove 911 Turbos or something like it. And her BMW 325i is six years old! But for them, this is living very frugally.
We do have close friends we are going to Hawaii with that we discuss everything with, however. Part of what makes it easy to do so is they make significantly more than us (both doctors). They are getting pretty comfortable discussing it with us as they see we aren't going to be resentful of what they have earned. They live below their means (which means their house would be an extreme stretch for us to afford) and after my prompting, put all their retirement funds into Vanguard Target Retirement, and they max everything. So we count ourselves extremely lucky to have friends we can have these kinds of conversations with.
It's all relative. He bought a brand new Lexus IS350 and got teased by his partners for going cheap, as they all drove 911 Turbos or something like it. And her BMW 325i is six years old! But for them, this is living very frugally.