I think there is a difference between codependency/enabling and a one time gift for help. I am 37. If my parents were providing for basic needs like housing and food I would fully expect them to require complete access to my budget in order to determine where I was going wrong. Because even with a low paying yet noble job, 15 years should be enough time to work ones way to a better place with a combination of saving, creative budgeting to reduce expenses, and coming up with other ways to add extra income.I'm remembering why I didn't post anything about getting that townhouse now. Most people are just answering the question, but we have a few judgmental types here.
Let's say I have $100M. My kid wants to do something like be a social worker or a teacher and improve the world. Those kind of jobs are admirable but don't pay too well. Wouldn't it make sense to pay for some things so the kid doesn't have to live in a low rent area and drive an unreliable car? I'd rather give them some money than have them quit and take a higher paying job they hate that provides no value to society.
My situation is somewhere between that and my kid being a lazy irresponsible spender who can't hold onto a decent job. I can't speak for the OP.
If I was unwilling to do those things, or to allow parental oversight and input, I would fully expect to be cut off. Even without a college degree one could reasonably work their way up through retail to a livable wage, especially without children and single. I voluntarily cut myself off first at 17, then after that failure for good at 19.