Do you have a bucket list?

[Meadbh]

Interesting article in the NYT about (a) making one and (b) sharing it with your doctor.

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/02/08/...column-region&region=top-news&WT.nav=top-news

I don’t have a bucket list. If I wrote one, it would have to be updated frequently as my preferences evolve. And I’m not sure my doctor would be interested.

 

[Dtail]

No true bucket list for us. We have some plans up to 2 years and then make up the rest on a daily basis, as we go along through life.

 

[REWahoo]

I don't think I even have a bucket.

 

[NW-Bound]

No bucket list. So many things in life I have not done, despite having done more than some people. Whatever new things I do, new places I go, are appreciated. I am easy to please.

 

[Red Badger]

No BL - evolving in retirement.

Some priority items in next 18 months. A couple extended (dom & int'l) trips. A 3-5 day "road trip" each (and every) month. DW not a big fan of last one - I told her to consider them optional (for her) as I don't always require a chaperone.

 

[aja8888]

No BL. Bucket has a big hole in it. DW got ill and we are grounded going forward except for an occasional road trip.

 

[Nemo2]

Not an 'official' list, no......but there are places, (and whatever unofficial listings we do hold in our heads always revolve around traveling), we'd like to visit/revisit.

 

[MuirWannabe]

I do have a bucket list. It does evolve. I’m not ridged about it.

But sharing it with your doctor? You must be crazy. Not that it’s a secret. I don’t know about what type of doctor the author visits, but any doctor I go to barely has time to diagnose the issue of why I’m there. Much less have a nice chat. If I were to start going through my bucket list I’m pretty sure some strange looks would result as he was headed out the exam room door.

I’m always amazed by these recommendations that include ‘tell your doctor this’, ‘share with your lawyer your feelings on that’, ‘talk with your accountant about blah blah’. Any professionals I see aren’t usually in it for small talk. And frankly neither am I. Get in, get out. Now DW’s hairdresser. I suppose that’s fair game.....

Muir

 

[kcowan]

I have a bucket list and I have deleted some items that we got to and then added others. I have removed Machu Picchu because of my COPD. Will have to be satisfied with the 4K drone flyover!

My longtime family doctor died of a heart attack several years. He was a year younger than me at the time.
His replacement decided to retire 2 years ago. So I am going to a nearby clinic. DW is testing a younger guy from South Africa. I will probably join her this summer.

 

[MRG]

I do have a bucket list. It does evolve. I’m not ridged about it.

But sharing it with your doctor? You must be crazy. Not that it’s a secret. I don’t know about what type of doctor the author visits, but any doctor I go to barely has time to diagnose the issue of why I’m there. Much less have a nice chat. If I were to start going through my bucket list I’m pretty sure some strange looks would result as he was headed out the exam room door.

I’m always amazed by these recommendations that include ‘tell your doctor this’, ‘share with your lawyer your feelings on that’, ‘talk with your accountant about blah blah’. Any professionals I see aren’t usually in it for small talk. And frankly neither am I. Get in, get out. Now DW’s hairdresser. I suppose that’s fair game.....

Muir

The author says he's an MD.!

His use of words baffles me. A "recovered alcoholic" who's goal of downing a martini hardly sounds recovered(some of my best friends are in recovery).

No we don't have a bucket list.

 

[Walt34]

No bucket list here either, but one thing that I want to do soon is leave a $100 bill as a tip on a meal that will probably cost ~$25. Just to make somebody's day.

 

[W2R]

No. If I want to do something I just do it.

 

[NW-Bound]

Interesting article in the NYT about (a) making one and (b) sharing it with your doctor.

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/02/08/...column-region&region=top-news&WT.nav=top-news

I don’t have a bucket list. If I wrote one, it would have to be updated frequently as my preferences evolve. And I’m not sure my doctor would be interested.

I finally read the article, which is interesting and written by a thoughtful palliative care doctor who recounted the interaction with his/her patients.

One interesting observation: "In a study published today in the Journal of Palliative Medicine, we asked 3,056 people across the United States and found that nine out of 10 had a bucket list. Participants who said that faith, religion or spirituality were unimportant to them were the least likely to have a bucket list."

As this is really a last wish, I do not know if I will not have something in mind when my time is really near.

 

[Onward]

Ever since I was a kid I prioritized life-goals very highly. Experiences over things, to the extreme.

That's the reason there's never been much on my bucket list. I've never given them a chance to accumulate.

It's also the reason I found myself dead broke, with nothing saved for retirement, at age 39.

BTW, I've never liked the term "bucket list." It's so non-descriptive. Sounds more like a menu at KFC.

 

[Ronstar]

No official list. And I certainly wouldn’t share the list with my doctor if I did have a list. My doctor hasn’t been too fond of some things I’ve done since retiring. But regardless of who I share future plans with, the advice is the same - “ it’s best to do it sooner rather than later”.

 

[bingybear]

I have a number of buckets, but never made a list of the ones I have.

 

[CardsFan]

No bucket list here either, but one thing that I want to do soon is leave a $100 bill as a tip on a meal that will probably cost ~$25. Just to make somebody's day.

That one has crossed my mind, as well. During the Holidays, I will often tip 50% or more, at inexpensive places.

The $100 tip would need to be for a server I have had many times. Probably at the local pub where I have lunch weekly with some friends.

MIL often gifts cash ($50's and $100's) for birthdays and Holidays. I normally
just tuck them into my wallet as "emergency" money. It would be a good use of the money.

 

[braumeister]

I've never made a list, because if I did it would change all the time.

But I will often say "Oh yeah, that's a bucket list item!"

A good example was last year when we made a long anticipated trip to the Galapagos. Definitely a bucket list item, but all that means is a once-in-a-lifetime experience.

 

[NW-Bound]

Meadbh did not make it clear that the article was about people who were on their last legs.

And the article said that 9 out of 10 such people had a bucket list! Maybe when we are in that stage, we will want to do something before we go.

I just recall that in 2013, before I went under the knife for a major surgery, I wanted to make another RV trip. It was not really a bucket list because I was not a terminal patient. Still, bad things could develop, and I wanted to do something. It could be my last RV trip.

So, I drove to New Orleans and back. Been there before, but could go again. And the distance made the trip long enough for the time period that I had.

 

[Car-Guy]

I voted yes (but I don't share it with my doc). Actually I've pretty much accomplished the things on my bucket list so I'm repeating the ones I liked the best. The only thing really left on my bucket list is to never let bucket number one run out of money. I'm still working hard on bucket number two and it's bigger now than when I retired, so I'm not too worried.

 

[Midpack]

I do have a bucket list. It does evolve. I’m not rigid about it.

+1. I’ve had a list since I was about 30, long before I heard the term BL. About 70 items accomplished, about 70 remaining, but I’m not rigid about it either. The list has always evolved, probably always will.

 

[jimbee]

Nope, I didn't like excessive planning when I had a job, and I'm not doing it now that I'm retired.

 

[Walt34]

That one has crossed my mind, as well. During the Holidays, I will often tip 50% or more, at inexpensive places.

The $100 tip would need to be for a server I have had many times.

Yes, I have a couple of specific ones in mind. We don't go out to eat that much, maybe 2 - 3 times a month. But there are a couple that we go to regularly and the service has been routinely good.

 

[Koogie]

I have a bucket list but I think the only doctor I've seen in the last twenty years was a surgeon in the ER.

Guess I should add getting a doctor to my bucket list...

 

[MarieIG]

Nope, sounds like work to me.