Is it even remotely possible that your DW has some valid concerns? I think the two of you need to sit down and figure this out. No wishful thinking allowed! Math is math, and pretty straightforward. Both of you sound like intelligent, competent people. Surely you can go through the numbers together and come to some sort of agreement.Marriage is a team effort. Time to pull together as a team.
Good advice.
Just because one financial advisor says you are good to go doesn't necessarily make it so. For a decision of this magnitude you need to really crunch the numbers.
Do something like this: keep track of all your actual expenses for at least six months (12 would be better). Then add in, say, 20% extra to cover unforeseen contingencies. Cross check the monthly or annual figure against your respective passive income stream: which you can reduce by 20% to guard against a possible stock market crash, dividend cuts, etc.
If the above exercise confirms the advisor's opinion, presumably the evidence - including the built-in buffers - will be sufficient to persuade your wife. If not, she is just being irrational (after your years of marriage together, you will know how to best deal with that situation).
Many wives who have an issue with it would have said "whatever you think is best is fine with me" which means "please don't". That she is actually saying "No" is at least a good thing, you know what she really thinks.
Agreed.
I don't buy it. Insisting that a spouse work when they don't need to is coercive and corrosive to the relationship. The OP is supposed to suck it up and be unhappy until he gets permission to do what makes him happy so his wife doesn't have to go though the hard work of understanding their true financial position. Were the sexes reversed in this discussion, I think the guy would be seen as a bully.
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You need to come to a mutual agreement or your marriage will be strained. You can run the numbers fifty different ways and if she's not comfortable it's best for your marriage to keep working.
I don't buy that. What you are effectively saying is that one spouse has absolute veto power over the other's life, regardless of any logic.
While I certainly agree with you that a good marriage is all about compromise, yielding to a 'my way or the highway' approach is quite inconsistent with that.
Maybe DW would feel more comfortable if you were to purchase a fixed income annuity or deferred income annuity, and thereby achieve "certainty" of a future income stream rather than being at the mercy of the stock market?
A good suggestion. Although that strategy is probably not great from a strictly financial perspective, if it buys consensus on ER it could be a price worth paying.
I worked part time for a few years and really enjoyed having more "me" time and time to do all the things around the house that needed to be done (which now consume my weekends).... DW thinks I will be bored in retirement. I'm not worried about that and have many interests/hobbies outside of work.
Your part-time experience was a kind of 'dry run' for retirement. Point out how happy and fulfilled you were during that 'rehearsal' period.