Thank you for sharing this. We (44 & 45yr olds) have a 3yr old and the thought of relocating outside the US to FIRE is becoming more attractive. What was the catalyst to relocate outside the US? Have you faced any challenges raising children outside the US with family in the US (assuming you are in touch with family here)? Any details of your journey would be greatly appreciated.
The catalyst for moving to Peru was 9/11. I was living nearby and it changed my life forever. I actually boarded my flight on 9/11/03 in remembrance.
My Daughter from my first wife was 15 at the time I left and we both cried alot, but she understood and fully supported my desire for happiness. She was closer to her mothers side of the family and other than my 99 y/o father, really has no contact.
When I came to Peru, I was 50 y/o and married a Peruana who was 22 at the time. 14 years later, we have two Sons 23 months and 11. My wife has a large family so unlike your children, mine are surrounded by family constantly.
Both my Sons have a very close relationship with my Father and talk about him all the time. We have a landline in the house and at least 5-10 times a day the little one will come into my office, holding the phone and saying in babytalk that his grandfather wants to talk to me. It is quite unusual as most young children are afraid of old people (Ancients) yet the first time they met the little guy would not leave his side.
While every country is different, it is very important to find the right school for your children (private was our only option) but costs can vary widely. Also in SA culture, what school you go to (talking grade school here) may very well determine his ability to advance in his future career.
Where we are the same, is that I need to move my family up to the USA for a period of at least five years and we are agonizing over where will be the best opportunities job wise for my wife and school wise for my children and weather wise for me. My wife and I will return to Peru with the youngest son, but the older one will probably stay behind for a few years for University and career.
I am sorry I could not be more helpful and the oldest one is bugging me to take him surfing this morning.