Koolau
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I can certainly sympathize those of you who had difficulties with your transition. I think it's going to be somewhat of an issue for us too. DW so identifies with what she does at work. She sees retirement as stepping off a plane and she's not so sure about the parachute.
We're all so different. My personal issue (pretty much singular) was whether we would have "enough" in retirement. When I had that solved, I relaxed at w*rk and actually began enjoying the position that I had created for myself at megacorp. When the position went away years later, I "stepped off" with virtually no qualms.
DW left the family business early to make way for the next generation. She wasn't quite ready, but was overjoyed about the transition. She didn't even worry about the "enough" question. She just assumed there was enough even though she rarely looked at the financial stuff I managed.
Mom and dad were "forced" out of the family business by circumstances - primarily dementia. It was sad and I think they really missed the day to day interactions and being "needed." I wouldn't quite call it depression, but something close to that.
3rd generation at the family business is already planning her "escape" even though she's only in her late 40s. She loves her w*rk and the challenge, but she has better things waiting to do beyond w*rk.
Three generations, all different reactions and approaches to retirement. I guess none of us should be surprised at someone ELSE's reaction to retirement. It's very personal.