exnavynuke
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
How something is said is often much more important than what is said.
To me, this says "I see a safety hazard. You didn't mention it so you're probably unaware or haven't thought about this important thing I see. I need you do to something about it for my peace of mind."
To me, the statements said together come across as an assumption of unfitness on the part of the parents (to notice a potential hazard and/or make a plan to address it) and concentrating on what is best for the writer.
A more appropriate (imo) way to address such a concern would be something like:
You can bring up concerns in such a way that they will be sure to be noticed and most likely heeded, while still coming across in a manner that says "I'm confident in your abilities as a parent" at the same time. On the off-chance that you've raised completely irresponsible parents, they're sure to have recognized the safety concern when it was "subtly" pointed out. On the good chance that you didn't, you've reminded them of it and offered to help on the off-chance they can't manage a good solution to the problem on their own. Either way, you've shown support, not questioning, of their decisions and parenting.
"Does your new home have a security fence that will prohibit small children from accessing the pool? I need to be able to put my head down on the pillow at night and sleep."
To me, this says "I see a safety hazard. You didn't mention it so you're probably unaware or haven't thought about this important thing I see. I need you do to something about it for my peace of mind."
To me, the statements said together come across as an assumption of unfitness on the part of the parents (to notice a potential hazard and/or make a plan to address it) and concentrating on what is best for the writer.
A more appropriate (imo) way to address such a concern would be something like:
That house looks amazing! I'm sure you all will love it. Though I don't envy you having to child proof that entire home and that gorgeous pool for the little one! If you all need a hand though with that stuff, the move, or anything else let us know and we'd be happy to help. Again, it looks like a lovely home, thanks for taking the time to show it to me/us today. We can't wait to visit
You can bring up concerns in such a way that they will be sure to be noticed and most likely heeded, while still coming across in a manner that says "I'm confident in your abilities as a parent" at the same time. On the off-chance that you've raised completely irresponsible parents, they're sure to have recognized the safety concern when it was "subtly" pointed out. On the good chance that you didn't, you've reminded them of it and offered to help on the off-chance they can't manage a good solution to the problem on their own. Either way, you've shown support, not questioning, of their decisions and parenting.