sturbridge
Recycles dryer sheets
- Joined
- Mar 14, 2015
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I preferred to rent (my sister's two) than own.
My DD waited to have children until they could afford them, she was age 39 and 41.
Fewer children obviously means fewer oars in the water to pay my SS. I encourage everyone to have at least 4!
No, I am not a good babysitter��
As Chris Rock said "I don't agree, but I understand!" with respect to referring to a child as "oops".
In my case my 29 y/o, 13 y/o and 3 y/o were all planned! The first and second were both born on Father's Day (unplanned but appreciated)! My third child was born when I was 62, I was already retired for many years, so no effect there.
wow us too. We decided that 2 must have been the right number for us. One of those has 2 girls and a boy, the other 2 boys. I don't think any of us regretted the decision. I would guess that adding in college would increase that number by 50% or more depending on the college choice.;2109441 said:We had two kids, both boys. Almost a 3rd, but DW had a miscarriage early in the pregnancy.
Never had any interest in having kids, and I can't imagine how awful my life would have been if I had any. Being childfree (CF) is the biggest reason I was able to retire 10 years ago at age 45. It is the best and most important decision I have made in my entire life. No regrets whatsoever.
I wouldn't expect that most people regret the decision they made. The people that didn't want kids were happy - but, since they never had any they have nothing to compare against. Same thing with the people that had kids and wouldn't trade it for anything. Those people didn't experience the life without the kids, so they really don't know for sure how they would have felt had they not had the kids. It is what it is. Nobody is trying to say one way or the other is better for someone else.
Kids are a lot of work, more than I ever thought it would take. And unbeknownst to me they are still work beyond the age of 18. An uncle of mine mentioned last week that they still ‘worry’ even though their oldest is 50!
While I did not think that my parents did not think about us much beyond 18 years old, In reality I was too self absorbed at that age to realize that they had and concern or influence in my life.
I wouldn't expect that most people regret the decision they made. The people that didn't want kids were happy - but, since they never had any they have nothing to compare against. Same thing with the people that had kids and wouldn't trade it for anything. Those people didn't experience the life without the kids, so they really don't know for sure how they would have felt had they not had the kids. It is what it is. Nobody is trying to say one way or the other is better for someone else.
I wouldn't expect that most people regret the decision they made. The people that didn't want kids were happy - but, since they never had any they have nothing to compare against. Same thing with the people that had kids and wouldn't trade it for anything. Those people didn't experience the life without the kids, so they really don't know for sure how they would have felt had they not had the kids. It is what it is. Nobody is trying to say one way or the other is better for someone else.