So, I'm a little financially frustrated with myself.
I started a new job about 14 months ago where I effectively doubled my income. I have no debt except for a mortgage, have a rental property, two pensions, and lots of 401k savings... so I'm not struggling to be sure. But with my new income, I quickly fell into the trap of living a lifestyle much higher than what I have normally accustomed myself to.
2 years ago, I wouldn't buy something if I hadn't budgeted for it, and I was good about making sure that I didn't impulse-buy. But lately, over the past year, I've been really "off the wagon" (or on it, or however that phrase goes). Now, I don't even look at prices, I just hand over my credit card. I don't think about it at the time, since I enjoy being able to provide a lifestyle for my family... but my daughter made a comment the other day that really snapped me into reality.
She's 14 and she said... "You know daddy, this is a lot of money, you should be saving."
Now, granted... she's saying this because she remembers the other 13 years of our life where we lived well, but financially responsibly. But her comments really hit home.
How is it that I've allowed myself to become so irresponsible with money? Again, I have no debt, I'm still maxing out 401k contributions, dumping a ton into my daughter's 529 every month, and even saving a little bit beyond that... but I'm trying to think about where it all went (I have Quicken), and I'm just shocked. Eating out, subscriptions, gym memberships, charity (which isn't bad of course), and just "stuff."
I know inflation has gone up considerably over the past two years, but if I had lived as if I was still making what I made 2 years ago, the doubling of my income would have allowed me to literally HALVE my mortgage, or add considerably to my savings.
I'm supposedly getting a promotion / pay increase, and a bonus next month... which will be substantial (to be clear, I work very hard), but it frustrates me how loose and irresponsible I've been. While I consider myself really lucky, I wonder what the best way to approach this with my family is.
I try to read "Debt - A Love Story" once a year to get me re-motivated (like watching Hoarders on A&E before you do a deep "spring cleaning"), but I'm just frustrated by lost opportunity. Like, I was literally getting ready to pay cash for a 1966 Mustang GT, and then was like... I work from home, I barely drive the cars I have. I already have two classic cars in storage units, what the hell is wrong with me?
I guess I'm looking for some admonishment, encouragement, and similar experiences / advice to get back on the right track. I'm 44 if that makes any difference. Oh yeah, I'm in Tampa, haven't lived in Fort Lauderdale for 8 years (I need to update my signature).
Thanks!
I started a new job about 14 months ago where I effectively doubled my income. I have no debt except for a mortgage, have a rental property, two pensions, and lots of 401k savings... so I'm not struggling to be sure. But with my new income, I quickly fell into the trap of living a lifestyle much higher than what I have normally accustomed myself to.
2 years ago, I wouldn't buy something if I hadn't budgeted for it, and I was good about making sure that I didn't impulse-buy. But lately, over the past year, I've been really "off the wagon" (or on it, or however that phrase goes). Now, I don't even look at prices, I just hand over my credit card. I don't think about it at the time, since I enjoy being able to provide a lifestyle for my family... but my daughter made a comment the other day that really snapped me into reality.
She's 14 and she said... "You know daddy, this is a lot of money, you should be saving."
Now, granted... she's saying this because she remembers the other 13 years of our life where we lived well, but financially responsibly. But her comments really hit home.
How is it that I've allowed myself to become so irresponsible with money? Again, I have no debt, I'm still maxing out 401k contributions, dumping a ton into my daughter's 529 every month, and even saving a little bit beyond that... but I'm trying to think about where it all went (I have Quicken), and I'm just shocked. Eating out, subscriptions, gym memberships, charity (which isn't bad of course), and just "stuff."
I know inflation has gone up considerably over the past two years, but if I had lived as if I was still making what I made 2 years ago, the doubling of my income would have allowed me to literally HALVE my mortgage, or add considerably to my savings.
I'm supposedly getting a promotion / pay increase, and a bonus next month... which will be substantial (to be clear, I work very hard), but it frustrates me how loose and irresponsible I've been. While I consider myself really lucky, I wonder what the best way to approach this with my family is.
I try to read "Debt - A Love Story" once a year to get me re-motivated (like watching Hoarders on A&E before you do a deep "spring cleaning"), but I'm just frustrated by lost opportunity. Like, I was literally getting ready to pay cash for a 1966 Mustang GT, and then was like... I work from home, I barely drive the cars I have. I already have two classic cars in storage units, what the hell is wrong with me?
I guess I'm looking for some admonishment, encouragement, and similar experiences / advice to get back on the right track. I'm 44 if that makes any difference. Oh yeah, I'm in Tampa, haven't lived in Fort Lauderdale for 8 years (I need to update my signature).
Thanks!