Yeah but if i start spending 401k now I think I will run out of money. . . So far though I am not having a bit of fun not working and zero contact with people is doing me no good.
Your glass is more than half full.
You have several options.
IMHO, you are focusing too much on the time value of money and not enough on the value of time OVER money at this point in your life.
You need to consider that there are years left and there are good years left in your remaining lifespan. Good years being when you are healthy enough to go out and do the things that interest you versus having more health restrictions limiting what you can do.
I suggest you focus on the following:
Pay for a financial planner. You still have no plan. This is like asking the Internet to diagnose your symptoms instead of seeing a doctor. As others have suggested, use a fee based planner and get a plan created so you can see more clearly the options you actually have which I think are invisible to you right now.
Focus on your health. Invest in your health. This is a dial you can turn even if you are not receiving further income. Taking a walk every day is free. Getting a cheap gym membership is an investment to prolong your good years and is a better investment than trying to hit age 95 with the the ability to spend 70k that year. My retirement spending plan only goes to age 85 for my wife and I. After that, we might run out of money in our investments. We will not be broke as we will srill have Social Security income and my small pension each month. But that allows us to spend a little more between 65 and 75 while we still have our health. We are not spending wildly but understand we need to enjoy our good years while we have them.
It is best to have sufficient saved to never run out, afford all scenarios including long term care, etc through age 95. Well, I do not have enough to do that. A lot of people do not have that. Yet I love retirement. I am not worried. I looked at my best options, made my plan, accepted the options and tradeoffs, and focus on the quality of remainning life, not maximizing how long my limited portfolio (less than half of yours) will last.
Get a financial plan in place and know your options.
Invest in your health.
Give yourself permission to focus on what you want to do. I do volunteer work as my "part time job". I enjoy reading books I want to read. I enjoy a different pace of life and no rat race. My spending is lower but so is my blood pressure. You will find your pace of life and your focus once you have a plan and priorities in place. Good luck.